Here our Problem:

0.32 Patch L. Both Players use Vista 32Bit, Game is over direct IP
18 Player (16AIs), Pangea (Huge), more events, more Animals, more Resources, aggro AI, no Hell Terrain.

Game runs smooth without OOS, but if we take a break or 1 Player crashes he cant reconnect. The Host can Open the Game normaly/choose his Leader-Race, but the one that joins is stuck at this screen. He dont see any Leaders and so cant choose any/ cant join the Game. We have tried switching Host but it didnt help.

I don't know if that help but we get almost the same thing. Every time we start a new game or load a game e or someone should reconnect. We exit CivIV to desktop(everyone) and then relaunch the game, so we get no problem after.

Tcho !

Thanks for the Tipp, but this didnt Help. We had 3 or 4 Games with this Problem, could play only straight trough, if some crashes or must leave = Game Over.
At first we tought it was because my friend choose a random leader but that wasnt it eighter. Later today we will try a game with less KI, maybe its a problem with a Special AI (Decius for example).