I fully agreed with you with the dangers of deference once I understood what you were saying. It's very telling (IMO) that several points have been made to show why deference to the judge is a good thing in that it facilitates legal proceedings and such but all of the points I've seen to support the notion that you can say what you want are precisely that -- 'I do what I want!', which again, is childish IMO.
I just haven't seen a good reason yet why we should all be allowed to curse out judges and so much of the conversation has revolved around the personal or professional failings of the judge himself as if that justifies disruptive behavior in court. Granted, he is the subject of the thread, but people are using his bad behaviors as evidence to support the notion that no judge deserves respect and no courtroom should disallow any kind of speech.
If I were a judge, I'd find that evidence inadmisable!