It is not remotely rare! it happens all of the time! again and again and again!
In addition, it is a pretty much undisputed fact that the diplomacy system is awful. Just because the've added vague messages in doesn't been its any better than the garbage that was with the initial release. Its a completely unrealistic silly system, which encourages you to never trust or make friends with anybody!
Whats the benefit of making friends? Give us your excess resources for free or we'll tell the world your a b*stard before convincing everyone else to drnounce you then gang DOW you! PS. You can't freely request anything from us!
Great. what a great moral here! Friends are worthless, hate everybody!
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An undisputed fact? I dispute that. The SYSTEM is not awful. The BUGS in the system however, are practically debilitating.
EVEN STILL - I can manage to game the diplomacy system. I can maintain friendships, and alliances, and I almost always understand why someone attacked me.
Yea, there are bugs in the system. But in order to get any progress, we have got to learn to differentiate between PROCESSES and the entire SYSTEM. Individual processes have issues (such as re-gaining positive reputation), and the system has bugs (such as multiple DoW from the same civ on the same turn, or the "I want peace - NO DICE TANTO!" stuff you listed above... but none of these completely invalidate the system.
I understand the frustration here, really I do. But what I do not understand is why, if you absolutely hate this game so much, you are still here talking about it? If you goal is to get someone to make it better... then I would suggest you think about how best to accomplish that goal.
In my opinion, you have two choices:
1) Mod it, or find a modder and convince him/her to mod it for you.
2) Sort through your personal anger and disappointment, and put a finger on exactly where these bugs are and which processes need to be improved. Then, articulate these findings to the people who have the resources and authority to fix/change it.
In my opinion, again, your current mantra of "DON'T USE WORDS WITH ME, THE SYSTEM IS GARBAGE AND EVERYONE KNOWS IT EXCEPT YOU" just isn't going to result in anything productive.