Little Raven
On Walkabout
Corinne Colbert does.
That said...I'm not sure I can follow that logic all the way to the altar. While the perfect should not be the enemy of the good I honestly believe that who you marry is pretty much the biggest decision you can make when it comes to determining future happiness. This is not the place to settle. That doesnt mean you should expect your marriage to be perfect nothing ever is but you shouldnt feel like you settled, either. I know that I still cant believe my luck at having convinced my wife to marry me, and well be celebrating our 10th anniversary tomorrow.
Speaking of which I suppose I should do something about that. Hm.
It's a very short essay...I'd highly encourage everyone to read it in its entirety. And I think she makes a very good point about the hopeless expectations foisted on us by a culture of advertisement, and how unhappy we can be if we fail to separate the reality of life from the lure of marketing.My husband is not my best friend. He doesn't complete me. In fact, he can be a self-absorbed jerk. We're nearly polar opposites: He's a lifetime member of the NRA who doesn't care for journalists, and I'm a lifelong liberal with a journalism degree. On the other hand, he doesn't beat or emotionally abuse me. He doesn't drink or chase other women. He's a good provider. So I'm sticking with him.
Some people would call that "settling," like it's a bad thing. But I believe in settling.
That said...I'm not sure I can follow that logic all the way to the altar. While the perfect should not be the enemy of the good I honestly believe that who you marry is pretty much the biggest decision you can make when it comes to determining future happiness. This is not the place to settle. That doesnt mean you should expect your marriage to be perfect nothing ever is but you shouldnt feel like you settled, either. I know that I still cant believe my luck at having convinced my wife to marry me, and well be celebrating our 10th anniversary tomorrow.
Speaking of which I suppose I should do something about that. Hm.