PITBOSS questions

If running Warlords, is Pitboss required to be downloaded? or is it already included?

If it is included then why are me and my friend having difficuly making direct IP connections? (Both our firewalls are disabled)

Pitboss is a separate program that is included when you purchase Warlords (and Civ4), but it has to be running on your host system before it works properly.

As for connection issues, the most common issue with connectivity is that port 2056 on your router has to be open for players to connect properly.