You know, both men and women think there tend to think there is such a thing is 'ideal' perfection. While there are universally attractive things (such as being a healthy weight) other than that your personality/money has more to do with it, especially if you're a guy. If you're a guy that simply looks average, every now and then there will be at least some random girl that develops a random crush on you (of course, it's true the opposite as well. An average, ordinary looking girl will get an random guy getting a random crush on her every now and then). Losing weight could actually increase your dating pool somewhat, but there are other things you can do. I'm a lot more comfortable talking to women than I used to be. With my mental illness it makes it more awkward for me to interact with others, especially the opposite sex, but it's just a matter of practice to get the hang of it.