Zardnaar
Deity
No one has anything against male sexual energy (and I'd be willing to bet I enjoy it much more than you do), but why do you feel that male sexual energy has to be tied completely to the exploitation and degradation of women? That's not a problem for all men, I know plenty who express their sexuality without objectifying women.
Sure a friendship can become romantic ... but I feel there's a difference between that happening naturally, and making that your universal strategy, no? When you're with your male friends, do you constantly hold out hope one of them is going to become romantically involved with you? If you proposition one of your male friends to become a couple, and he says he's not interested, do you have thoughts that maybe you'll try again later, eventually wearing him down? Do you feel that if you help your male friends with things, and if they then won't date you that means they're horrible people? When you make a new male friend, do you think to yourself "Oooh yay, I sure hope we start dating someday?"
I'm never going to judge people who are into BDSM or anything (heck, I have what some would call really kinky desires) but what he's doing in this story goes well beyond that ... do you feel what he's doing is normal and okay?
How do you think your wife would feel if she was friends with your (male) neighbor, and she finds out he's watching domination pornography (or really any pornography) and specifically seeking out leading actresses who bear a resemblance to her? You don't think this is disturbingly creepy?
I kind of fell into the female friends become girlfriends. Or more likely their friends. Kinda happened organically though, didn't go out if my way to do it.
I was dumb as rocks in other ways though. Screwed it up a bit (so did they sometimes).
Most if the time it was mostly my fault though.