if you are a builder you need to learn diplomacy more... after all that's supposed to be part of being a peaceful leader in the world yeah, as was mentioned, don't start adopting religions and expect your neighbors to just be nice about it! when dealing with other leaders, you have to finesse them or be powerful -- or even better, do both -- otherwise you will get screwed. the game is very realistic in this sense and it's kind of neat. If you want to just peacefully build and never worry about being attacked, just play on Chieftain level against Gandhi or something. obsolete's walkthrough games showed me how you need to avoid adopting and even being the one to initial found religions, thereby allowing everyone else to convert and start hating each other, and giving you the flexibility to adopt those religions that will benefit you the most diplomatically.