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Are Manners Outdated?

Discussion in 'Off-Topic' started by carmen510, Jul 2, 2009.

  1. carmen510

    carmen510 Deity

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    Many of our perceived manners such as men holding the door open for women and men taking their hats off indoors were created in the days before women were thought of equals as men.

    My question to you is that since it is now rather distasteful to be sexist, should we ignore the manners of a society which used to be so?

    (In other words, since we are now equal, should we no longer practice such manners?)
     
  2. Nylan

    Nylan Characters Welcome

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    Should we stop doing nice things for people because they're equal to us? Of course not. Nor is that a good reason to stop being polite. It is a sign of respect.
     
  3. Bill3000

    Bill3000 OOOH NOOOOOOO! Supporter

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    Tradition is stupid. Abolish all customs!
     
  4. Moss

    Moss CFC Scribe Retired Moderator

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    While what is considered kind and considerate (manners) might change and evolve over the years, and differs depending on the culture, we're always going to have them because people will always strive to treat those they like (or their mate) with respect and do what is deemed to be respectful. (currently, opening a door for a person is still deemed to be respectful)
     
  5. holy king

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    yes, women and men alike hate it if you hold the door open for them.
     
  6. Mowque

    Mowque Hypermodernist

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    I joke about giving it up, but I hold doors open for anyone who is walking near bye regardless of gender. I'm just that great.
     
  7. homeyg

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    The only manners I stick to are holding doors for people and waving at passerbys. Any other form of manners does not exist in my generation.
     
  8. Kerozine

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    Nothing preventing you from ignoring them. :dunno:
     
  9. Narz

    Narz keeping it real

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    Of course they are noob! Now STFU & GTFO! :mad:

    Spoiler :
    No, they aren't & never will be :)
     
  10. Formaldehyde

    Formaldehyde Both Fair And Balanced

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    It seems rather crazy and pointless to deliberately go out of the way to open a car door for a woman anymore, but I'll certainly keep a building door open for nearly anybody regardless of gender. The only case where I don't feel obliged is for the people who decide to saunter.
     
  11. Mowque

    Mowque Hypermodernist

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    In today's rush crazed world, we should respect a good saunter.
     
  12. QuoVadisNation

    QuoVadisNation keeping your angel alive

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    Manners are what separates us from the savage New Jerserians.
     
  13. Narz

    Narz keeping it real

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    :lol: It's true. New Jersey sucks so bad!
     
  14. Formaldehyde

    Formaldehyde Both Fair And Balanced

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    Except when you know someone is holding a door open for you.

    You missed it by that much...

    http://www.smithsonianmag.com/travel/mytown-newyork.html
     
  15. QuoVadisNation

    QuoVadisNation keeping your angel alive

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    This is usually where I would make snide comments about Boston and New York. But I am unable to muster up the pretension to combat their incredible do_c_e baggery. : )

    At any rate, no, manners are not outdated. The kind of manners exactly are always going to be region dependent, but they're there. It's inherent in Professionalism and the further away from childhood you are the more apparent the need to enforce at least some of them.
     
  16. warpus

    warpus In pork I trust

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    I open doors for members of all genders!

    I'm a polite Canadian though.
     
  17. Formaldehyde

    Formaldehyde Both Fair And Balanced

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    What still really drives me nuts after living in NYC for 13 years is waiting for someone to get their money out once the cashier has rung up the total. It's as though it's always a huge surprise to them what's going to happen next...

    No soup for you!
     
  18. SS-18 ICBM

    SS-18 ICBM Oscillator

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    "Are manners outdated?" Well, you'd better ask yourself first, "Do I want to get along with people?"
     
  19. Phlegmak

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    Courtesy is useful and it's a good idea in general.
     
  20. Dawgphood001

    Dawgphood001 The Professional Poster

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    I don't hold doors open for men, that's just stupid. Women, occasionally.

    Most of my manners are practiced when eating. I'm pretty scrupulous when it comes to dining. Never chew with mouth open, talk with food in mouth, etc.

    Other than that, it's all about dignity and respect. If you have dignity and respect for yourself and others, you don't need manners.
     

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