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Can a single man be friends with a married woman?

Discussion in 'Off-Topic' started by Disgustipated, Sep 20, 2010.

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Can men be friends with a married woman?

  1. Yes

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    79.3%
  2. Only if he's gay or he finds her unattractive

    12 vote(s)
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  3. No

    5 vote(s)
    3.7%
  4. maybe/not sure

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    3.7%
  5. what are friends?

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    4.4%
  1. Disgustipated

    Disgustipated Deity

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    Basically I'm asking if men and women can be friends, but I'm extending the question a little further and asking can a man be friends with a married woman (or a woman living with another man).

    I believe personal threads are not allowed here? So I won't go into details. Just that someone is being forced not to see me anymore. I'm not happy with it, but I figure I may just have to accept that. Her guy is basically saying men and women cannot be friends. So I pose that question to you all here at CFC.

    edit: And yes I know the When Harry Met Sally bit. Feel free to post it anyways. It's a funny speech.
     
  2. civ_king

    civ_king Deus Caritas Est

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    Why can't a single man be just friends with a married woman?
     
  3. Lone Wolf

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    Any man who is capable of being friends with a woman at all is a sissy gay, Real Men screw every woman they lay their eye upon :mad:
     
  4. warpus

    warpus In pork I trust

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    I am single and I have at least 5 female friends who are married.

    Their husbands aren't douchebags so they let us be friends and stuff.
     
  5. .Shane.

    .Shane. Take it like a voter Retired Moderator

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    The answer for anyone who's made even a foray into adulthood is an unequivocable yes. (unless of course you live in one of the super f'd up countries that treats women like crap)
     
  6. Ramius75

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    -why not ???

    -The guy can be a "reserve" also.

    -nothing is sweeter than a married woman.
     
  7. Disgustipated

    Disgustipated Deity

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    actually I did screw her, but that's another story

    edit: I decided to stand aside and let the other guy have his way. I will terminate the friendship (slowly- I will just not communicate via email as much and stop altogether)
     
  8. Immortal Ace

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    If he knows that that is probably why.
     
  9. Glassfan

    Glassfan Mostly harmless

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    As time goes by, morals change and evolve. In the days of our grandparents, women were chattel and you didn't covet your neighbors' wife. Today, with total equality, women work, socialize, and make their own friends independently of spouse. A jealous husband these days is an immature fool, and deserves to lose her. Women have the same freedom to have an outside life as men.

    Which, of course, means men may have women friends too.
     
  10. Theige

    Theige American Baron

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    This.

    It makes a pretty big difference.
     
  11. Tani Coyote

    Tani Coyote Son of Huehuecoyotl

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    Of course. Chances are he's friends with the married woman's husband, as is natural.

    If the married man is mature, he'll trust his wife. If the single man is respectful, romance will be far from his mind.

    I'm sure it makes great romantic drama, but I don't think all single men are necessarily horn dogs. After all, the man won't be attracted to all women he finds, more often than not.
     
  12. Grisu

    Grisu Draghetto Retired Moderator

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    important piece of information that would have belonged in the OP

    I was about to say that the guy's either insecure or a jerk, but now I somehow understand him. That is assuming the part of you screwing here was during their relationship/marriage.
     
  13. LucyDuke

    LucyDuke staring at the clock

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    Ain't no man ever gonna tell me I can't be friends with somebody.
     
  14. Bast

    Bast Protector of Cats

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    Girl, ain't that the truth. :rolleyes:
     
  15. Ziggy Stardust

    Ziggy Stardust New Englander

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    You can't be friends with somebody.
     
  16. bhsup

    bhsup Deity

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    Yes, you can be friends, but there are things that are just not acceptable anymore. You don't get to go bar hopping with your married female friend anymore. Just as her hubby doesn't get to go bar hopping with Trixie and Babbette, his female friends, anymore.
     
  17. Ziggy Stardust

    Ziggy Stardust New Englander

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    Why not? I hop many a bar with some married friends and my girlfriend hops bars with her male friends and don't see why this would be a problem.

    It's called trust, and it's great :thumbsup:
     
  18. bhsup

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    It's not a trust issue at all, it's a 'totally inappropriate' issue.
     
  19. Ziggy Stardust

    Ziggy Stardust New Englander

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    Again, why?

    I'm ok with it. She's ok with it. The hubby is ok with it.

    Is it a case of "what would the neighbours say?"
     
  20. bhsup

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    In your case, that's fine if everyone is okay with it. I would not be. And I can assure you none of my brothers or their wives would be okay with it either. Nothing to do with what any nosey neighbors would say, not their business so they can stuff it. It's just not appropriate behavior. You know...not appropriate. Like running down the street naked but covered in jello is inappropriate. There are some things you do and some things you just do not do because they are most obviously inappropriate.
     

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