The one thing I frequently hear from those around me in real life is when it comes to relationships, it's important to be "friends first". In my opinion, that's setting me up for failure, because like most guys, I desire sexytimes, but expecting to have sexytimes with someone after becoming friends with them is only going to lead to trouble. Telling me to be "friends first, then gf/bf" is only going to automatically make me think that I'll someday be their significant other, or otherwise have sexytimes with them, which will lead me to making actions that will in the end only ruin the friendship. In the end, it probably just depends on the persons involved. Generally, I doubt that a guy and girl can be just friends.