Neonanocyborgasm
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Also agreed that modern western society puts a pretty unrealistic expectation on young men regarding how they are "supposed" to think about women. It almost seems to demand that we become contextually asexual.
I also believe that western society puts unrealistic expectations on women's sexuality as well. Despite supposed sexual liberation, women are still expected not to obviously admit that they like sex, least of all to men, and the least to the man they would like to sleep with. To openly admit such a thing is as good as admitting to be a whore. (It's only acceptable to admit to having sex in a relationship.) That's why men are forced into a situation with women where they have to imagine some premise other than getting laid, while dating them. Everyone knows this open secret, but all seem more content to dance around it.
If our society was truly as liberated as we'd like to believe, women would not have to have an anti-slut defense. They would also have no hesitation about asking men out, rather than the other way around always having to be the case. And women complain about this all the time, yet seem oblivious to a solution. Many have feigned this sexual disinterest so long that they fool themselves. I couldn't tell you how many dates I've been on where the girl was claiming that there would be no hanky panky while I'm undressing her.
You have to be willing to make a move (and telling you loved them for years isn't it), and risk losing the friendship. A woman likes to feel like they are sexually attractive.
I would like to affirm this as well. Women want the man to make sexual advances, and since they have to pretend disinterest, they will instead put themselves in a position where the man can make them. If you as a man fail to take the hint, and don't take what is offered, you will quickly lose a woman's respect. She will think of you as probably less than gay, maybe asexual, and certainly not manly enough to do her.