Cheating ;)

[MCdread]

Originally posted by Akka

If she does not love her boyfriend, she has to leave him. If she had not done it yet, and I'm in love with her, well I'll ask for her to clear up her situation before doing anything with her.
If she really doesn't love him anymore, then there is no problem quitting him.
If she still love him, then she has nothing to do with me.
If she loves both of us, well then him and I have to agree on a shared relationship, which I highly doubt any of us will accept.

I don't see what is "complicated" here.

Do you really believe that's how things work out there in the real world? Sorry if I'm patronising, it's not my intention, and I'm absolutely no expert, but you've never experienced a situation like this have you, directly or indirectly?

 

[Akka]

Originally posted by MCdread


Do you really believe that's how things work out there in the real world? Sorry if I'm patronising, it's not my intention, and I'm absolutely no expert, but you've never experienced a situation like this have you, directly or indirectly?

I'm not talking about "how things work", I'm talking about "how things SHOULD work".
Samely, I say we SHOULD NOT kill, doesn't mean I believe I live in a murder-free world.

Directly, indirectly, and from the both sides.
I don't say it's EASY, I say it's SIMPLE.
I'm not superhuman. I have just empathy, memories and imagination, which allow me to take the place of the one being cheated. Just as I refrain to kill people that anger me because I know it's not the thing to do, I refrain to cheat on people when I feel the urge, just because I know it's not the thing to do.

 

[superslug]

Akka, I'm going to stab a guess and say that you never get drunk, do you?

 

[MCdread]

Originally posted by Akka

I'm not talking about "how things work", I'm talking about "how things SHOULD work".

Fair enough, but we have to act according to what there is.

 

[MCdread]

Originally posted by superslug
Akka, I'm going to stab a guess and say that you never get drunk, do you?

Well, he answered that in other threads, but what's the point?

 

[Akka]

Originally posted by superslug
Akka, I'm going to stab a guess and say that you never get drunk, do you?

Considering I hate the taste of alcohol, you would be right

But "cheating" because you were drunk and did not realized what you did, is considerably less severe than cheating "in cold blood", if you know what I mean
I can accept the idea of "accident". I just feel about to puke when someone find pitiful justifications about cheating.

Originally posted by MCdread
Fair enough, but we have to act according to what there is.

As I said, I'm not superhuman. In fact, I've actually quite a strong sex drive, and I'm quite emotive, which means that I feel body and sentimental urges in a quite powerful way.
If I can keep them in line to not hurt other unecessarily, then everyone can do it.

 

[superslug]

Originally posted by Akka

Considering I hate the taste of alcohol, you would be right

But "cheating" because you were drunk and did not realized what you did, is considerably less severe than cheating "in cold blood", if you know what I mean
I can accept the idea of "accident". I just feel about to puke when someone find pitiful justifications about cheating.

I was going to use it as an explanation, but explanations aren't justifications. We seem to be on the same page on this particular point. I'll have to find a debate elsewhere...

 

[Matrix]

I'm not planning on it.

 

[Aphex_Twin]

If you can do it with a straight face, go right ahead. But if your consciousness is bugging you, you are doing yourself harm. But I have no such issues

 

[GenMarshall]

Cheating is the most horible thing that has happened to me. It happened to me twice. Two of my ex-girlfreinds both were seeing other men behind my back and that realy hurt.

Due because of the experiance, I will never cheat on my Girlfreind since I know the pain they would go through.

 

[Desmond Hawkins]

I have no moral objections, but I am too freakin lazy to properly please one woman, let alone two.

 

[metalhead]

Cheating happens. Unless you are married, you don't want to be the poor sap who stays faithful only to get cheated on. Now, if you can't get any woman but the one you're with, then that's your problem. I say what the hell, relationships almost never last anyway.

 

[Paalikles]

Woops - misread the topic, and voted yes, but only once.
Thought it was that other "cheating"...like cheating in monopoly or something....

Actually, it is No, never and then never

Edited: would not want using "cheating in civ3 for example" to be used against me in a court of civ crazyeye: )

 

[Norlamand]

No. Married to a good one and want to stay that way.

 

[floppa21]

Originally posted by Norlamand
No. Married to a good one and want to stay that way.

Poor Norlamand...

 

[Archer 007]

Originally posted by Akka
Things are very complicated because people try to find every kind of pathetical excuses to justify that they just want to do what they wish without bothering with what others can feel.

If she does not love her boyfriend, she has to leave him. If she had not done it yet, and I'm in love with her, well I'll ask for her to clear up her situation before doing anything with her.
If she really doesn't love him anymore, then there is no problem quitting him.
If she still love him, then she has nothing to do with me.
If she loves both of us, well then him and I have to agree on a shared relationship, which I highly doubt any of us will accept.

I don't see what is "complicated" here.

I got to agree with you one hundred percent. People need to make up their minds. Its really unfair to play with other's feelings.

 

[Archer 007]

Originally posted by Norlamand
No. Married to a good one and want to stay that way.

Congrads! How long have you two been together?

 

[floppa21]

Superevie, Akka - I didn't mean as revenge. It's not a matter of hanging around with a 'good' crowd. People are this way. It is a constant that I have seen and trying to not cheat and ESPECIALLY trying to not be cheated on is a losing proposition. You can trust someone all you want but it only hurts you more when they betray that trust. And they will.

 

[Archer 007]

I don't think that is a definte though, and even if it is, people can work though problems.

 

[Jeratain]

Cheat? Cheating is for insecure asses.

And to those who say "an eye for an eye" or, "I'll only cheat if I know they're cheating on me" : You're just as ignorant as the one who is cheating on you and probably deserve it.