Are we at the point where we are just talking past each other, standing across from the other side and just preaching to whichever choir is primed to be receptive?
Politics are tricky, people only have 1 vote and seldom do they have a chance to pick someone they 100% agree with. I myself could never vote for Trump unless the opponent was someone that I downright hated (I don't think any of the current candidates fit the bill)... but still there is a scenario where I could vote for him. Almost certain I will end up casting a protest vote, though I hope the Democrats will pull their head out of their A and offer a real alternative. My protest vote would probably help the Republicans, I don't want that but it's how I vote. There is a minimum threshold and below that is a non-starter. I vote anyways because downballet is more important / more REAL in my mind.
I could really care less about a wall or that much about immigration. There are some things I liked about Trump's message, like his attitude towards infrastructure (unfortunately, an empty promise). And yet, with all the dislike I feel towards Trump, I didn't like the way these kids were treated. When I see Democrats defending it, it motivates me to not vote for them, even where I rationally think I'd be cutting my nose to spite my face were I to vote Republican. It's not just Trump supporters who are watching and evaluating (or reverse the parties and still true).
At the risk of making this too personal... how am I supposed to view our parties when they look at my biracial children and one side sees a polluted white kid who represents the extinction of my legacy, the other side sees a minority majority on paper but a snarky pale face when walking down the street, with implications that the one drop rule has cleansed him of my white plague. I would like to assure both sides that my children are going to inherit my legacy, as will their children of whatever color they are, because I damn sure intend on being around to influence all of them. My grandbaby might have darker skin or kinky hair, but will have the same pattern baldness as me regardless. He or she will use my turn of phrases, body language and other quirks... if I have anything to do with. Which is the lesser evil for me, the side who seems to want to keep white people "pure", or the side who seems to think impure white people have been washed of their original sin? I don't want to get started on gender politics because that's where I really get frustrated. I'm emphasizing the radicals on both sides because I've encountered both sides and neither party seems interested in engaging the skeptics in the middle.
Here's a fact. Donald Trump won the election with less votes than Romney had when he lost his (in a landslide). The problem for neither side is that they have too many hardened opponents. They both seem locked right now into a determined battle to alienate anyone that is not drunk on kool-aid. Both parties are vulnerable right now. Trump won with the support of many disillusioned Democrats, but he pretty much abandoned the promises that appealed to them and has mostly delivered Republican boilerplate (tax cuts for the investment class). Democrats are in denial that Trump is something different - would rather believe he's Pat Buchanan 20 years later despite some rather obvious indications he's not.