Death/Tragedy of Close Friends (or any friends)

[Japanrocks12]

Just now, I found out that one of my best friends throughout my highschool has had an anxiety attack followed by a heart attack yesterday. He went straight to the ER and the echo-cardiogram couldn't even register pulses on his body. So right now, he's at home. They've disinfected his entire home because he can't get any disease as his heart is so weak. His pulses are now incredibly faint but somehow he managed to tell me what happened over an IM.


He now has to be in a perpetual state of calm. Anything else stressful will trigger another anxiety attack and he might very well not make it. Which brings me to the point. Have you ever lost a friend incredibly close to you? I'm dealing with what would happen if I've lost him.. he's so profoundly shaped my life and has helped me with so many things. He's just told me and two of his other close friends. One of those friends, against his wishes, has told his whole orchestra class and by this time, a great majority of people know (that . .. .. .. .. .. .. .). I'm at a loss for what to do and perhaps one of you can help.

 

[Phlegmak]

Just now, I found out that one of my best friends throughout my highschool has had an anxiety attack followed by a heart attack yesterday. He went straight to the ER and the echo-cardiogram couldn't even register pulses on his body. So right now, he's at home. They've disinfected his entire home because he can't get any disease as his heart is so weak. His pulses are now incredibly faint but somehow he managed to tell me what happened over an IM.


He now has to be in a perpetual state of calm. Anything else stressful will trigger another anxiety attack and he might very well not make it. Which brings me to the point. Have you ever lost a friend incredibly close to you? I'm dealing with what would happen if I've lost him.. he's so profoundly shaped my life and has helped me with so many things. He's just told me and two of his other close friends. One of those friends, against his wishes, has told his whole orchestra class and by this time, a great majority of people know (that . .. .. .. .. .. .. .). I'm at a loss for what to do and perhaps one of you can help.

Good lord. It sounds like his life is over. Make sure he never gets a computer job, or any job at a big company. If his brain problem is permanent, then the only thing I can think of is some kind of psychoactive drug to help treat it.

 

[Japanrocks12]

Good lord. It sounds like his life is over. Make sure he never gets a computer job, or any job at a big company. If his brain problem is permanent, then the only thing I can think of is some kind of psychoactive drug to help treat it.

:/ I asked him whether installing a pacemaker would do anything, but he hasn't gotten back to me on that.. right now he's awaiting the electromagnetic pulse thing results and I'm talking to him constantly to be with him.

 

[Phlegmak]

:/ I asked him whether installing a pacemaker would do anything, but he hasn't gotten back to me on that.. right now he's awaiting the electromagnetic pulse thing results and I'm talking to him constantly to be with him.

Talking to him constantly might make him excited? Maybe you should just let him sleep or read in bed for a few days. Talk to him again after a while.

 

[Che Guava]

Oy...I lost a pretty good friend when I was 17, a random drowning accident. There's no real good way to deal with it all, but if anything should happen, just remember not to bottle it up. Talk about it if you feel like it, do something in his memory, yell at the sky if it makes you feel better. Just don't think it will go away if you don't let it out...

 

[Kozmos]

Press the nudge button if you are using MSN.

 

[Fifty]

I had a semi-friend get blown up in Iraq, but I'd say the two that most strongly register are the death of my mom and the death of my dog.

 

[downtown]

I've had a few good acquaintances kill themselves when I was in high school, which hit me fairly hard...but nothing prepared me for the shock of losing my own dad. Its been a little over a year, but I still think about him everyday.

Tragedy is hard, and its even harder when you're young, and your sense of invincibility is shattered. The best thing is to talk.

 

[Fifty]

Tragedy is hard, and its even harder when you're young, and your sense of invincibility is shattered. The best thing is to talk.

I agree. Although, one thing that I feel incredibly guilty about is that I feel more intense and "depressed" sadness from my dog dying recently than I did when my mom died. I feel enormously guilty about that, but I really just think its because I emotionally insulated myself from my mom in her final years because if I didn't, the stuff I saw would have probably literally made me go crazy. Don't get me wrong, though, I was very sad when my mom died, but I didn't cry nearly as much as I did when my dog died, and didn't feel that super-sad, on-the-verge-of-crying sadness for my mom nearly as much as I have for my dog. I guess I also had issue with my mom because in 6th grade its hard to see how addiction of that level is a disease and not really a choice in any meaningful sense.

 

[Head Serf]

Someone who I was somewhat friends with killed his mom in 9th grade and will be spending the next 30 years of his life in a jail cell.

I feel sorry for your loss.

 

[D'Artagnan59]

My best friend from Kindergarten to 2nd grade's mom died.

My second cousin is hospitalized with West Nile, and one of my friends has EEE.

 

[Atlas14]

Just now, I found out that one of my best friends throughout my highschool has had an anxiety attack followed by a heart attack yesterday. He went straight to the ER and the echo-cardiogram couldn't even register pulses on his body. So right now, he's at home. They've disinfected his entire home because he can't get any disease as his heart is so weak. His pulses are now incredibly faint but somehow he managed to tell me what happened over an IM.


He now has to be in a perpetual state of calm. Anything else stressful will trigger another anxiety attack and he might very well not make it. Which brings me to the point. Have you ever lost a friend incredibly close to you? I'm dealing with what would happen if I've lost him.. he's so profoundly shaped my life and has helped me with so many things. He's just told me and two of his other close friends. One of those friends, against his wishes, has told his whole orchestra class and by this time, a great majority of people know (that . .. .. .. .. .. .. .). I'm at a loss for what to do and perhaps one of you can help.

Thats scary. I've had anxiety attacks, even when I go running. The college health center is watching me like a hawk. I really never realized an anxiety attack would lead to a heart attack, and now this. I'm sorry

 

[Ecofarm]

I had a semi-friend get blown up in Iraq, but I'd say the two that most strongly register are the death of my mom and the death of my dog.

Your dog never really cared about you. He kissed your butt because you fed him and gave him shelter. His brain was the size of a pea. He was only an imaginary friend. Get over it. Buy a pet rock, it will exibit an equal amount of genuine comradery.

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[Stevenpfo]

I lost 3 friends in Afghanistan and lost a few more acquaintances. I've finally gotten past the sleepless nights, crying, anger and depressing thoughts but I don't think i'll ever be able to fully share how I felt/feel about it all to most people.

 

[Japanrocks12]

Your dog never really cared about you. He kissed your butt because you fed him and gave him shelter. His brain was the size of a pea. He was only an imaginary friend. Get over it. Buy a pet rock, it will exibit an equal amount of genuine comradery.

why the hell are you posting here if you have nothing to contribute except your ill will and hatred?

 

[Ecofarm]

I've had friends die too, but the best advice I could give was to someone other than the OP.

I took the opportunity to help someone. I've no ill will or hatred. Why do you read that into it? To me, it appears to be simple truth and might help someone get over some irrational mourning.

 

[Japanrocks12]

I've had friends die too, but the best advice I could give was to someone other than the OP.

I took the opportunity to help someone. I've no ill will or hatred. Why do you read that into it?

at best, you're rubbing salt into his wounds

 

[Ecofarm]

Call it "tough love", but don't accuse me of ill will or hatred without justification.

 

[Japanrocks12]

Call it "tough love", but don't accuse me of ill will or hatred without justification.

so you went up to a random post and then instead of offering him condolences like any normal person would, you hit him with what you consider "help" - but in reality is a troll, and a troll beneath the belt at that. And now you expect me to believe that what you said is normally how you offer advice to people?

 

[Ecofarm]

The discussion was the loss of friends, and someone brought up how they cannot get over their dog. Excuse me if I do not think that is appropriate and tried to explain. I thought we were allowed to argue positions on the forum. I'm not going to continue because the definition of friend is only barely on topic anyway and I'll end up with another violation.

Sorry if I offended anyone.