Berzerker
Deity
I was in the store waiting behind a woman in one of those drivable shopping carts. I waited and when she got what she wanted and was driving off I got what I wanted off the shelf. She saw my hand out of her periphery and said you're supposed say excuse me. A second later she called me an arsehole and then she looked back and said, thats right, you're supposed to be nice to people.
I thought I was being nice... I waited my turn and tried not to bother her. But she didn't like it... Part of me wanted to laugh and part wanted to show her what I'm like when I'm not being nice and another wanted to thank her for the delightful experience of meeting such a nice person.
Now sometimes when I'm shopping I'll stand back away from the shelf I'm looking at to get a better view. If I see someone coming I'll try to step closer to the shelf with my cart so they can go around me instead of in front of me. But I cant always do that so some people will pass in front of me without a word (thank you) and others will say excuse me (no need). I prefer they just keep walking, if they say excuse me I feel obliged to acknowledge them and 'forgive' their interference with my hunt for food.
You know, saying excuse me doesn't expedite the process... And please dont call it a courtesy, its a meaningless gesture that involves me further in your life more than I want or need. I'm looking for a product and now I have to engage with you instead, say excuse me for saying excuse me...
I typically only 'excuse me' when I'm in somebody's way or they're in my way and they're talking with someone and oblivious to the person who wants to pass. It doesn't make me mad... Now these people who get off the escalator and stand there as people start piling up behind them are another story, but I try not to bother people unless it becomes 'necessary'.
Some people interpret that as rude... They expect an excuse me and can become downright nasty when they dont get it. These people dont go around the store saying excuse me constantly so I find their gripe hypocritical too. I imagine they say excuse me when they think its necessary.
If I'm passing in front of someone who is standing back away from the shelf sometimes I'll say excuse me because these offended shoppers are conditioning me to think I owe them an excuse me, but I prefer just passing in silence for the same reason I prefer people pass me in silence, I dont wanna oblige them to respond.
What is the proper etiquette? If someone walks by you without an excuse me, do you feel offended?
I thought I was being nice... I waited my turn and tried not to bother her. But she didn't like it... Part of me wanted to laugh and part wanted to show her what I'm like when I'm not being nice and another wanted to thank her for the delightful experience of meeting such a nice person.
Now sometimes when I'm shopping I'll stand back away from the shelf I'm looking at to get a better view. If I see someone coming I'll try to step closer to the shelf with my cart so they can go around me instead of in front of me. But I cant always do that so some people will pass in front of me without a word (thank you) and others will say excuse me (no need). I prefer they just keep walking, if they say excuse me I feel obliged to acknowledge them and 'forgive' their interference with my hunt for food.
You know, saying excuse me doesn't expedite the process... And please dont call it a courtesy, its a meaningless gesture that involves me further in your life more than I want or need. I'm looking for a product and now I have to engage with you instead, say excuse me for saying excuse me...
I typically only 'excuse me' when I'm in somebody's way or they're in my way and they're talking with someone and oblivious to the person who wants to pass. It doesn't make me mad... Now these people who get off the escalator and stand there as people start piling up behind them are another story, but I try not to bother people unless it becomes 'necessary'.
Some people interpret that as rude... They expect an excuse me and can become downright nasty when they dont get it. These people dont go around the store saying excuse me constantly so I find their gripe hypocritical too. I imagine they say excuse me when they think its necessary.
If I'm passing in front of someone who is standing back away from the shelf sometimes I'll say excuse me because these offended shoppers are conditioning me to think I owe them an excuse me, but I prefer just passing in silence for the same reason I prefer people pass me in silence, I dont wanna oblige them to respond.
What is the proper etiquette? If someone walks by you without an excuse me, do you feel offended?