We have been messing with mods of Civ 4 again and finally tried pitboss to start our games. It makes a HUGE difference in how well they start! We deal with some odd network issues - two of our players share a home network for example - and using pitboss smooths all sorts of things out. We tried one mod, couldn't even get it to run, it runs great and is a lot of fun under pitboss! Every mod we've tried has worked, not perfectly, but well using pitboss. I'm not hosting, I don't know the details of getting pitboss to work, seems to me it was a little fussy until we figured it out, but otherwise it can really help out. I wanted to share this with everyone, in case people haven't tried it and are missing out on mods they enjoy and might be able to play together!