The unitarian church sounds like it would be a nice idea for me but I just can't help but feel like it's diet church. I was raised southern baptist so I feel like it's not really church unless the minister is up front shouting about hellflire and repentance, half the congregation is obese and/or over 60, and all the songs come from the old hymnals. Actually that was my grandma's church, the church we usually went to was less extreme.
Say what you want about the Baptists though, they make some really good down home country food. Except for the nasty pink marshmellow salad thing someone always brings.
Church can give you some good things to think about, I go with my parents sometimes when I'm back home. It's just a bit annoying when people start pressuring you to get more involved. My opinion is, it's nice once a week but I don't want to base my whole life around this thing.
Anyway, plenty of people ignore the submissive wife part of Christianity so I don't think it will be an issue unless you're married to someone who decided to read everything in the Bible literally and tries to follow every little thing.