I think maybe 25-35, but the closer in age the better I would think.
As for the occupations, I'm 18 so the occupations I'm more familiar with are waitor, checkout-guy etc but I'll try to play along
. I'd struggle to put them in order but I can group them.
Mid-level manager
Police officer
Successful artist/writer/musician/athlete
Engineer
Stockbroker
Accountant
Doctor
Construction worker
CEO
Janitor
Help desk operator
Business owner
The first group are probably my preferred choices. I'd want them to be successful, but if they were extremely successful I might feel like I couldn't really compare, which is why CEO is out. Mid-level Manager is something I see myself probably doing in the future, and so something similar would be good. Police Officers are probably quite likely to look after themselves and so might be more likely to fit with my other requirements. Successful artist/writer/musician would be a really interesting and creative person. However, an athlete would probably be too much in terms of fitness/muscle etc.
Middle group I don't have much to say about. Accounting and engineering are really dull fields in my opinion, and I'd struggle to be at all interested in their work.
Doctors are kinda too high-flying for me, but they're work is probably also too stressful and they work too long hours. Same with CEO and business owner. Business owners are probably likely to be financially risky which isn't really compatible with me.
Janitor and help desk operator are imo too unsuccessful. Construction workers don't tend to be the brightest (or gay for that matter
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To be honest, I wouldn't consider occupation a massively important thing. It's only really that important when it relates to more important things like their lifestyle for example.
You can disagree with me, but if you want to through homosexual men in one overgeneralized category they are more concerned with 1. level of masculinity, 2. intellegince/personality, 3. size (of what? take a guess).
Go to any gay dating site, etc, and one of the dominant conversations is do you like masculine or feminane gay guys ( either straight acting or camps as Ekolite pointed out). It's usually masculine btw.
The rest is self explanatory. But which is more important #2 or #3? most say #2, but that doesn't mean that they don't really think #3 is more important. Just my contribution to this.
Very interesting. Thanks.
So, if I may be so bold as to try to sum this up, and - using only two datapoints - generalise what homosexual men are attracted to (Yes, I know I should have more data, but I like to refine the conclusions as more data appears rather than wait with the conclusion):
1. Like other men, good looks are really important. The preferred looks are the same as what heterosexual women prefers.
2. Being that both partners are men, there is an issue of "rivalry", in lack of a better word. Feelings of too much superiority or inferiority can develop if their differences are too great in certain fields:
- One notable exception to the desired looks would be that their heights should be more or less equal.
- Homosexual men do like a high-status mate, like heterosexual women. But there is a greater need for being of near equal status than there is among heterosexual men and women (where men have little problem with a good-looking, but lower status woman, and women have no problem with a higher-status man).
- Likewise, their age gap can not be too wide.
- Homosexual men do not have the wish of being a supported partner, nor would they want to support their partner (Again, this is unlike heterosexuals, where men generally are okay with supporting their partner, and many women would prefer to be supported).
I'm gonna guess that is a somewhat accurate summary.
Hope nobody feel I am too out of line with this.
The way she carries herself, her views on a number of topics, how informed she is about current events, and a whole bunch of things I wouldn't even know how to describe
But those are all less important than looks, especially for short-term relationships.
Yeah, outer appearance is a large factor for me.. but that's because men are such visual creatures.
Yes. Yes, we are.
The way you generalized heterosexual women seems a bit off the mark though. And I expect a large variety in what homosexual men (or women) find attractive, but I suppose I could be wrong.
Not as much as you would think actually.
Attractive looks for men (which is much more important for homosexual men than for women, but becomes more important the less a potential partner knows about you) are:
- Age (around 30+/-5 being optimal, but for homosexual men should be closer to their age)
- Height
- Fatness (too skinny is bad, having a stomach or worse is bad)
- Muscles (a toned body and some visible muscles are good, but too much becomes a turnoff for most interested women and men)
- Full head of hair (if one is dark skinned, it is more acceptable to be bald. Receding hair is a no-no)
- Facial structure (sorry, I'm a bit of a loss on this one, but visible cheek bones, strong, separate eyebrows and first and foremost a symmetrical face is I believe, some of the answer)
- Being well-dressed (for the occasion)
However, the most important factors that heterosexual women look for in men are (which more or less all translate into status):
- Income/wealth (something like $70,000/year and up is good)
- Occupation (Doctor, CEO, Stockbroker, Business owner, Successful artist/writer/musician/athlete > Engineer, Accountant, Mid-level manager, Police officer > Construction worker, Janitor, Help desk operator)
- Own house, car, etc.
(Being young (college-age/younger, or late 20's (possibly even early 30's) gives you some leeway if you don't measure up on these first 3.)
- Size and composition of the man's social circle.
- Intelligence
- Behaviour
I think (now) that homosexual men share many of the same view as heterosexual women, with the caveat that too great status-gaps limits the viability of a long-term relationship.
