Homosexuals: What exactly is it you find attractive in the same sex?

I don't care if it doesn't fit into what people would like. It is reality.

I just have to ask: Are you African-descendant?

The OP doesn't go into any details, but by and large, it is correct. What is attractive for heterosexual men and women is very well understood.

For homosexuals I still have no idea. I know a self-evaluation of what one actually finds attractive is difficult for some, as their ideals sometimes conflict with their own bodies. But I would still like to hear if you - or anyone else - can give me some idea at least. :)

I am half Puerto Rican and El Salvadoran.
 
Getting all that potential data from Ekolite is rather misleading. For one thing, who would fancy a chap who moisturises (!!!) and for another, he's only one person. Talk about limited selection pools :)
 
Muscles :drool:

and for some reason I find idiots cute. What I consider more disturbing is I think straight men get slightly more attractive if I find out they're homophobic. (I must hate myself or something)
 
Probably the same things that women find attractive about men. All the homosexuals ive met in the real world that i known about thier sexuality are effiminate which leads me to beileve they must have an overabundance of female hormones in them or something. Just a guess.
 
And all the masculine ones you've met but didn't realise passed under your radar.
 
And all the masculine ones you've met but didn't realise passed under your radar.

It probably never occured to me they were gay. As ive said the ones who i know were gay were the ones that told me or i found out later.

There was this one employee where i worked who fit the stereotype perfectly. He wore colorful clothing and had an effeminate personality.

The others werent so out there but i thought they were and i found out later they were gay.

Yes i know people dont always fit the stereotypes about them.
 
It probably never occured to me they were gay. As ive said the ones who i know were gay were the ones that told me or i found out later.

There was this one employee where i worked who fit the stereotype perfectly. He wore colorful clothing and had an effeminate personality.

The others werent so out there but i thought they were and i found out later they were gay.

Yes i know people dont always fit the stereotypes about them.

But very few gay men are actually flamers. You just don't notice it, but most gay men don't act different from the average straight man.
 
Mentally: Anybody who's caring and shows responsibility, pretty much. Plus you know, compatibility.

Physically: Muscles. Basically masculinity in a can(take that how you will since I can't list all of what I mean. ;)), sans that nasty stuff - hair. A shaved muscular person = :love: though!
 
Getting all that potential data from Ekolite is rather misleading. For one thing, who would fancy a chap who moisturises (!!!) and for another, he's only one person. Talk about limited selection pools :)

Hey, soft hands are always a bonus that's all I'm saying :p.

All the homosexuals ive met in the real world that i known about thier sexuality are effiminate which leads me to beileve they must have an overabundance of female hormones in them or something. Just a guess.

I agree with Arakhor, it is actually a minority who are overly effeminate but they're the only ones that are obviously gay. The kind of gay men you see on tv are not representative of homosexuals in general. Many gay men don't act much differently to straight men, and for that reason when you meet them you're not likely to realise they're gay unless they actually tell you they are.
 
@Cheetah:

Yet for some reason none of the girls I've ever met spend their nights dreaming of marrying unattractive influential people. Your assertion that status is the most important thing women (as a gender) look for in man is wrong, stupid and more than a little insulting; though I'm sure not intentionally so.
 
I agree with Arakhor, it is actually a minority who are overly effeminate but they're the only ones that are obviously gay. The kind of gay men you see on tv are not representative of homosexuals in general. Many gay men don't act much differently to straight men, and for that reason when you meet them you're not likely to realise they're gay unless they actually tell you they are.

Heh, reminded me of this
 
Yes, Donald Trump seems to attract women who look like post-op trans.. except for Melania, she looks like a woman
I did notice the same. Seems like his tastes upgraded for each iteration. :p

I'm gonna blame the fashions of previous times.

I am half Puerto Rican and El Salvadoran.
I see.

The reason I asked is that I've seen arguments that even though female beauty is pretty much universally agreed upon by all men, "black" men seem have a greater tendency to find women with larger asses more attractive than "white" or "asian" men (Yeah, I know, it's a very crude grouping). Was just curious since you specifically mentioned it. :)

Getting all that potential data from Ekolite is rather misleading. For one thing, who would fancy a chap who moisturises (!!!) and for another, he's only one person. Talk about limited selection pools :)
Haha, I know. :D

Well, I like to create stereotypes to help me understand things, and then change the stereotypes as new information comes along. I was mostly summarising for myself I suppose. :)

It sounds a lot like youre clinging to your idea that women take money over attractiveness as some sort of crutch, Cheetah.
Oooh. If you are trying to imply something about me as a way of criticising my argument, feel free to say it more directly. ;)

For the record, I'm currently almost broke and jobless. For what they're worth, my "good looks" and my intelligence and humour are all I have to show for myself in the mating game for now.

Put please, feel free to tell me more about my crutch.

@Cheetah:

Yet for some reason none of the girls I've ever met spend their nights dreaming of marrying unattractive influential people. Your assertion that status is the most important thing women (as a gender) look for in man is wrong, stupid and more than a little insulting; though I'm sure not intentionally so.
I didn't say unattractiveness and influence were high status though. ;)

And I do doubt Wendi Deng was dreaming of Murdoch when she was 18. Young girls have less incentive to view lots of money as high-status, especially if there is a huge age or looks gap. Doesn't mean she couldn't be attracted to him when she got a bit older and thinking (instead of just dreaming, like most young people do) more about her future life.

No, she was probably dreaming of other high-status males, who were younger and better looking than Murdoch. But not necessarily better looking than some bloke down the road who she might not have fancied much. I bet most young girls will dream of actors, football players, athletes, rock stars; famous people that the young-people-sphere is interested in. They do not have to be pretty, though it doesn't hurt of course.

This isn't wrong and it isn't stupid. And I'm really not sure why describing something as natural should be insulting.
 
sans that nasty stuff - hair. A shaved muscular person

I thought you liked fur :confused:

And the common gay stereotype is being attracted to good looks, from what I know...
 
I figure all sexuality relationships have at least some polarity so one partner will be drawn to gentle, nurturing types which the other will want dominant, strong types. Obviously that's oversimplified but I imagine it's true, what do the gays reading that think?
 
I thought you liked fur :confused:

Fur on human-like animals. Not fur on humans themselves. :p

Odd double standard, yes, but, what can one do?

And the common gay stereotype is being attracted to good looks, from what I know...

For gays alone? I'd think that'd be a stereotype for anybody... :confused:
 
What I find attractive in a man is totally screwed up. I was with a good-looking successful man and just wasn't that attracted to him and another time I was with a married security guard who spoke no English and I was very much attracted to him even though he was totally wrong for me.

When it comes to attraction I prefer someone who is rough, quiet (though sometimes a loud alpha male is nice) and I don't care at all about status, wealth, education. If I'm thinking about settling down with someone then I have to be more realistic. It would be perfect if I could find a nice combination of the two but in real life I don't know if that will ever happen.
 
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