Another woman who likes Civilisation here!
My brother got me into the game years and years ago--with the old version of Civ 2 that didn't have the talking advisors and all that--and I've been hooked ever since. I have female friends on-line who are way into Civ 3 and Alpha Centauri, too, and my mother always says that _if_ she was going to try ANY computer game, it would be one of the Civ ones. She says that sounds exactly like her type of game. But she's just not very good with computers in general.
As for how I play the game, I totally suck at war, it always takes way too long for me to make any units and by then the enemy has already made like 20 (stupid AI) so I just go for...well, I _guess_ the end goal is space, but if I survive the entire time without being crushed and I have high technology, lots of cities, clean air and water, and happiness, I consider it to have been a good game.
I only conquered the world ONCE and that was on the SNES version of Civ 1, and also I think a total _fluke_ of luck. I was playing as the Japanese, and I went stomping out with my first troops and just kept finding more mercenaries, etc... I kept finding the other civs while they were still really new and I would stomp the first city of theirs I found on a total random whim only to find out that that was their ONLY city and I had just completely wiped them out! Travel, search, repeat.
Until the Goddess showed up and told me what a great job I had done bringing civilisation to the world. WHAT civilisation, I had a group of marauding barbarian jerks!
Anyway...congrats on finding the cool girlfriend, Hugh!
...Notorious