Please do not agree to give Donald Trump one penny of American taxpayers’ dollars to start building a wall across the Mexican border. There is much more at stake than simply the waste of taxpayer money.
There is a perspective I would like to offer you on these negotiations. You are right in the thick of them, whereas I have the advantage of being a detached observer.
There is much more at stake in this negotiation than whether the tax dollars of American citizens will be wasted on a wall that will make our country no more secure and will offend our southern neighbor (important as those considerations are). Donald Trump knows in his bones this deeper thing that is at stake, and you need to bear it constantly in mind as well.
What is at stake is the same thing that Trump has put in question in a myriad of ways throughout his presidency: which will prevail, reality or his reality, facts or alternative facts.
This is not a policy debate; this is a brute contest of wills.
Donald Trump doesn’t want the wall. He wants you to be seen capitulating to give him the wall. He wants someone who has publicly opposed the wall to give it to him anyway. Because if he can get that, in any measure and by any means, it will establish a larger and much more consequential point: that the reality of our governmental system will bend to his mere caprice, as long as he maintains his whims forcefully enough or long enough.
Donald Trump doesn’t believe in the wall. He himself knows the wall is useless. In fact, it is only by getting you to capitulate to something that everyone knows is useless that he can establish the more important point: namely, that he can force you to his will. If it were a serious policy proposal, you could present yourself as having eventually been persuaded to it by good arguments on its behalf. Rather, for it to work the way he wants, the argument has to be over something that everybody knows is an utter fantasy; getting a victory in such a struggle establishes the much more important, broader (and more dangerous) precedent that reality will bend to his caprice.
He took no real interest in getting the wall funded during the first two years of his presidency. That is one sign that he doesn’t really care about the wall. More importantly, it is a sign of what is at stake in this crisis he has manufactured. Getting the funding in the past two years, it would have been nothing more than a waste of money; it would have made no great show of domination to get Republicans to waste money on his behalf. It is only against an opponent with an expressly stated opposition to the proposal that it can function as a brute contest of wills.
Don’t regard his “proudly claiming the mantle of the shutdown” as a strategic misstep (though you can use the video of that against him). It’s an actual indicator of how much, and what, is at stake for him in this struggle. Don’t think he was only egged on to this by right-wing media personalities. He wants this fight. I’m not saying he sought out this fight in particular, but now that he’s in it, he knows just what kind of fight he’s in and he relishes that kind of fight. Don’t think he’s looking for some face-saving exit. He is looking to dominate you, and to be seen as having dominated you. And there is nothing he won’t sacrifice to get that win. Nothing. Because anything and everything follows from such a win, and a loss here is utter defeat for him.
You must not engage this struggle as the sort of public policy negotiation you have conducted during your career as a public servant: this for that, let’s see if we can find a compromise. Trump counts on you to mistake it for such a negotiation. The wall is not a serious proposal. It has never been advanced as such. No case, with evidence, has ever been made that it would achieve anything at all. Don’t mistake this for a policy debate; don’t engage it as such. It’s not that he’s a Republican who thinks something is a good idea whereas you, being a Democrat, disagree. Rather, he’s seeking to get you to publicly knuckle under to an idea that both you and he and everyone knows is a lousy idea.
It is a contest of wills and nothing more.
He knows that his whole presidency, and any chance of reelection, rests on his being seen to have won this contest of wills. His supporters adore this force of will in him, and there is a segment of the American population that will respect it in him even if they regard him poorly overall. Force of will is a characteristic in a political leader that resonates strongly with many citizens, independent of policy positions.
He has several significant advantages on you. He doesn’t care about the federal government operating. He doesn’t care about whether federal workers receive their paychecks or not. He thrives in chaotic situations, whereas most of us are anxious to return matters to a more stable condition—and will make concessions to achieve that. In fact, his main negotiating strategy is to make a situation chaotic so that the other side will make concessions simply to return to a state of neutrality. That is what he has done here. He is counting on you to grow anxious about the shutdown before he does—and he never will.
But here’s why this really, really matters. Trump, as all serious observers have seen, is a would-be despot. The despot works by imposing a false reality, his own favored reality, on the citizenry: “Reality is what I say it is.” Trump knows that that is what is at stake for him in this struggle. If you let this fantasy of a wall prevail over the reality of real Americans’ real tax dollars, get ready for much more of this from him, including, for example, a serious claim of voter fraud after the 2020 election goes to a Democrat.
The good news? If you stand up to him this one time, if you win this contest of wills as a contest of wills this single time, you will take all the wind out of his sails forever. Like the parent who unequivocally, without the shadow of a qualm, stands up to the tantrum-throwing child—lets that tantrum go on as long as it might and still says no. His fervent followers won’t say it, and outwardly they’ll find ways to deny it, but in their hearts they’ll know he’s a loser. Because they watched him lose. And he will know that he can’t beat you and will spend the remainder of his term looking for every way to avoid a fight. So you just have to win this once. But you have to win it as a contest of wills, and not as a political negotiation, where your side came out a smidge ahead.
You have to deal him a humiliating loss. No quarter. No fig leaf. None. I suspect that kind of thinking does not come easily to you; you seem like fundamentally decent people, disinclined to gloat over an opponent’s defeat. But America needs you to summon up that kind of fire this one time. There’s the video of him owning the shutdown, the videos of him claiming that Mexico would pay, and polls are on your side (though you have to stay strong if they swing), so you have the higher ground.
At the very least, be crystal clear that what is happening here is a brute contest of wills and not a public policy debate of the sort with which you are accustomed. With him, use language like “The Constitution gives us the ‘power of the purse’ and we are going to use that power on behalf of the American taxpayer.” Use power language. Make it nakedly a power-struggle, so that he sees that you understand it as such.
With the public: “A wall was always a fantasy. The thought that Mexico was going to pay for a wall was a bigger fantasy. And the thought that Americans are going to pay for a wall, with Democrats in charge of the power of the purse, is the biggest fantasy of all.” (You have to use some of his own verbally repetitive style of rhetoric against him.) (Use “a” not “the”; “the” gives it a feeling of actual existence rather than hypothetical existence)