Narz
keeping it real
I wouldn't have used to have thought so but my gf has a rather strict definition & she's convinced me it is.
What's your definition of infidelity?
What's your definition of infidelity?
There's a difference between looking lustfully & taking sexual action, spending one's sexual & emotional energy towards another person (albeit a person they don't know IRL)Cheating is whatever breaks your relationship rules. It's up to you and your partner to figure out what they are, and what the consequences would be for breaking them.
A very jealous person may not want their partner to look at another person lustfully in any context, whether real life or on a tv screen. This would not be a realistic expectation for most people.
One would have a point if they felt their partner is neglecting them, sexually or otherwise, due to (over)consumption of porn.There's a difference between looking lustfully & taking sexual action, spending one's sexual & emotional energy towards another person (albeit a person they don't know IRL)
If one gets emotionally invested in pornography, there is a better argument maybe its cheating.
If porn is more important to you than your gf's wishes, then it appears to be a deal breaker. If giving it up is too difficult for you, then you have a second problem.
Is this a thing? I've heard of addiction to it, but always thought that was more similar to drug addiction than to an emotional connection.
I would agree these are both definitely problems, but they belong in a different category box than "cheating". At least normally/by default. People define their relationships to each other.
Though there's also the cases of gf wanting to use access to sex as a means to control/constrain actions of the man, and not liking porn because it reduces or removes her ability to do that. That's also a deal breaker, though for different reasons. If a woman is willing to use sex as a tool of control, you are probably better off dumping her regardless of the porn.
Porn can have addiction issues and put pressure on people often women but not exclusive to them.
It can create unrealistic expectations and body image issues.
Can also be a generational thing eg Playboy vs more explicit magazines in 80's and 90's to easily accessible video content now.