I leave for one year and I get replaced by Mobboss and El_Machinae
I love this place (no joke). It's a good addition to the community's collective voice.
WELCOME BACK!
ok croxis, here's a personal question since I know it depends on the invidual. How do you feel that your own movement towards acceptance is directly tied to the rest of the "queer" community such as post-surgery transexuals or what have you? Does your desire for social freedom and it coming from a sexual discrimination make you feel camraderie which such other members of the umbrella-queer community or do you wish you wouldn't be so closely associated so that you wouldn't be tied to a harder to accept (from the mainstream) group like transexuals?
Transexuals have it even worse that homosexuals do. Despite often being grouped together I really consider their issues separate (still important however) than that of sexual orientation. Homosexuality scratches on gender roles, but transsexuality flat out challenges it. That doesn't answer your question.
I don't really affiliate myself with the queer community. I feel very out of place. I think not being able to dance is a factor. I've developed a few friends who are gay, and we somehow met for that reason (such as dating at one point), but it isn't the defining factor of my friendship.
My ex and I were bored one night so we watched the auditions for American Idol on TV. There was one... contestant who identified himself as male but was so effeminate I wanted to stick a plastic spork in my eye. He was rejected because he couln't sing (not that those on the show can sing anyways), and was then wailing about discrimination and yadda yadda. I said, "well, gay rights just lost abot 5 years of ground."
I don't think that answered your question either. I tried.
No one awnswered my question!
What was it?
Croxis, has being openly homosexual affected your choice of church and/or your relationship with God? For example, I belong to a Religious Science church, and we have a slightly higher-than-average percentage of gay members. We are very accepting, and have many members who have been "cast out" of other churches.
I was never part of any church really. I call myself atheist or agnostic but neither of those is accurate. (Side tangent, pm if you would like, I am assuming the Religious science church is not Scientology? Related? Am I crazy?) I do believe that we are all looking at the same thing and that people of different faiths are just seeing things in different ways/finding their own paths to God(s). I do have a form of spirituality and I am quite aware that I am probably very off the mark of what "It" really is.
croxis: What homosexual "heroes" do you look up to, if any?
I nominate this question for having the greatest potential for hilarity!
LOL. AS long as they are in tights
Honestly. I don't have any. There really ISN'T any. I have admiration for those who put in blood sweat and tears for gay rights, but those who I identify as my heros are for reasons that have nothing to do with their sexuality.
But it does allow those who care about you know that they can help you, instead of simply assuming
I see where you are going, though. Self empowerment is hugely important for success regardless of one's circumstance, and seeing oneself as a victim creates victimhood. However one can believe he is just as capable and important and destined for success and still acknoweldge he is a second class citizen. Such recognition can be empowering too if used as a productive tool. I love the old positive thinking, pull-myslf-from-me-bootstraps, but lets remember we can give one another a loving hand as well, in numorous different mediums.
Bingo. I'm going further and doing more with my life than many other people I know. If I was any less of a person or my circumstances in specific situations were only slightly different, I would be dead. I've been that low and that close to giving up. So the I-am-mightlyer-than-tho not going to answer the question on deconstruction of privileged attitude makes me go "whope de do, good for you, so what."
I have to get back to work, I'll answer the rest when I get back.