RedRalph
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It's been on my mind a lot lately that in some ways, men really do get a raw deal. It bugs me even more that some otherwise intelligent and empathetic people will not even entertain that notion.
Now, given that this is an almost entirely male forum and young males at that, we can all expect some light-hearted "yeah they've got us by the balls" stuff, but I don't want this thread to turn into a mysoginistic rant against women or feminism. So, here's my problems.
1. As previously stated, some people won't entertain the notion that men get a disproportionately hard time in some ways. They (correctly) see that overall, women have had and still do have it harder and suffer more from sexism than men, and seem to think this invalidates any discrimination that men suffer. Doesn't work that way. Just because my sisters may have encountered more sexism than me it doesn't mean the sexism I may have encountered is any less wrong, for example. Some seem to think that by raising this issue you are trivialising sexism against women. Why??? Makes no sense.
2. Jokes about men getting hurt or bellitled are extremely commonplace on TV and in advertising, and no one gives two fiddlestickses about it. Jokes about men being raped are commonplace (don't drop the soap, ha ha), men being kicked in the balls is a comedy staple (don't see many 'jokes' about women being hoofed in the fanny for some reason) and have you ever noticed that while women tend to be sexually objectified in advertising, men tend to be belittled? Men can't work the washing machine, men can't cope with minding the kids, any time an ad centres around one half of a couple 'getting one over' the other, it's invariably the wife who bests the husband. Family Guy is one of the few shows that treats men and women equally appallingly in this respect and I applaud it.
3. While I do believe there is more pressure on women vis-a-vis appearance, there is similar pressure on men and no one takes it seriously. Why is there no recognition that it's just as bad for a 14 YO girl to feel like crap because she doesn't look like Katy Perry as it is for a 14 YO boy to feel like crap because he doesn't look like Usher (or whoever)? Why is objectification of men especially accepted when its in the gay community? Why are oiled-up beefcakes acceptable when it's gay guys leering at them but oiled-up cheerleaders being leered at something 'distasteful'?
4. Why does the Guardian employ the must utterly deranged misandrist, Bidisha to write for them when if they employed a mysoginist equivalent they would be hung, drawn and quartered? The point isn't really the Guardian's editorial policy, the point is that in general, this isn't something that worries anyone.
It just really bugs me. Then there is other stuff like the presupposition of male guilt and evil (guy kills his kids then he's an evil bastard, women kills her kids, she must have snapped, isn't it awful for them and for her, it goes against nature (as if all men have some urge to murder their kids)). The fact that most abuse and neglect of children is by women, yet if somehow me and my wife split up I would have almost no chance of getting custody because I'm a man.
Without resorting to stupidity, does anyone else feel this has gone a bit too far? I'm not blaming women for this, I'm saying society in general has a complete blind spot about it.
Now, given that this is an almost entirely male forum and young males at that, we can all expect some light-hearted "yeah they've got us by the balls" stuff, but I don't want this thread to turn into a mysoginistic rant against women or feminism. So, here's my problems.
1. As previously stated, some people won't entertain the notion that men get a disproportionately hard time in some ways. They (correctly) see that overall, women have had and still do have it harder and suffer more from sexism than men, and seem to think this invalidates any discrimination that men suffer. Doesn't work that way. Just because my sisters may have encountered more sexism than me it doesn't mean the sexism I may have encountered is any less wrong, for example. Some seem to think that by raising this issue you are trivialising sexism against women. Why??? Makes no sense.
2. Jokes about men getting hurt or bellitled are extremely commonplace on TV and in advertising, and no one gives two fiddlestickses about it. Jokes about men being raped are commonplace (don't drop the soap, ha ha), men being kicked in the balls is a comedy staple (don't see many 'jokes' about women being hoofed in the fanny for some reason) and have you ever noticed that while women tend to be sexually objectified in advertising, men tend to be belittled? Men can't work the washing machine, men can't cope with minding the kids, any time an ad centres around one half of a couple 'getting one over' the other, it's invariably the wife who bests the husband. Family Guy is one of the few shows that treats men and women equally appallingly in this respect and I applaud it.
3. While I do believe there is more pressure on women vis-a-vis appearance, there is similar pressure on men and no one takes it seriously. Why is there no recognition that it's just as bad for a 14 YO girl to feel like crap because she doesn't look like Katy Perry as it is for a 14 YO boy to feel like crap because he doesn't look like Usher (or whoever)? Why is objectification of men especially accepted when its in the gay community? Why are oiled-up beefcakes acceptable when it's gay guys leering at them but oiled-up cheerleaders being leered at something 'distasteful'?
4. Why does the Guardian employ the must utterly deranged misandrist, Bidisha to write for them when if they employed a mysoginist equivalent they would be hung, drawn and quartered? The point isn't really the Guardian's editorial policy, the point is that in general, this isn't something that worries anyone.
It just really bugs me. Then there is other stuff like the presupposition of male guilt and evil (guy kills his kids then he's an evil bastard, women kills her kids, she must have snapped, isn't it awful for them and for her, it goes against nature (as if all men have some urge to murder their kids)). The fact that most abuse and neglect of children is by women, yet if somehow me and my wife split up I would have almost no chance of getting custody because I'm a man.
Without resorting to stupidity, does anyone else feel this has gone a bit too far? I'm not blaming women for this, I'm saying society in general has a complete blind spot about it.