Senethro
Overlord
Let's see...
Don't care about gays either way, dislike gay activism
Friends with lots of non-white, dislike the way race is used politically
Have no problem with females, dislike feminist activism
Have no problem with Muslims, dislike jihadists
Actively engage in science. Don't think our way of life should be totally dismantled by environmental activists.
Believe strongly that healthcare should be available, don't think private insurance should be taken away. (ok, no parallel here...)
See a pattern? Being against activism does not equate with being against the group of people. I firmly believe most conservatives are like me. Unfortunately, too many of our self-appointed spokespeople come off as being anti-X where the real position is anti-X-activism.
This is like those unconvincing christians who claim they just hate the sin, not the sinner.
Basically, you're in favour of equality and tolerance in theory, as long as its quiet and out of your sight. If people get noisy or untidy about it, perhaps in the wrong seat of the bus, then you feel you must be against it.