i commiserate, i think my wife felt a bit left out but decided 'if you can't beat them, join them', now it's hilarious when when we play in a hotseat alliance and she says 'just one more turn and we're done' on several consecutive turns
My wife left me...
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Illusion13
King
People with wifes who still play... *sigh*
I'd never let Civ interfear with my life that way... Well, I am only 2 days past being 16, so what the heck do I know...
I'd never let Civ interfear with my life that way... Well, I am only 2 days past being 16, so what the heck do I know...
The_Unforgiven
KoEkWaUs
@ illusion13
could be fun actually, killing her off and stuff
could be fun actually, killing her off and stuff
Suleiman Pasha
Warlord
Wow I read abt gf/wife being upset at the time being given to civ, I always thought ppl were just joking around, I never thought this was possible in real life 
CIVPhilzilla
Reagan Republican
Make sure you give her gifts of 100 gold every once and a while to keep her mood up.
Stevenpfo
Emperor
I just finished deleting every game from my computer. I'm in the infantry, have a wife and a new baby. My wife barely ever complained that I play (she actually started playing battlefield: 1942 with me), but enough is enough. Sometimes you just gotta figure out where your priorities lie and go with it.
widdowmaker
Maker of Widdows
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agreed,if you have a baby dont play games. They need the attention. If you DONT have a kid then by all means let the girl rot.
Thanks for the kind words *and* the jokes. It's all fine, really. She didn't leave me BECAUSE of Civ, it's just another excuse in a group of them. No worries. BUT, at least now I don't have to guiltily shut the game down when I hear her come home. I can just keep playing. 
It's really not fair she use that excuse though, she played Zelda on my GameBoy for months for many hours at a time.
Ah, this is an addiction of monumental proportions. Are there support groups? A Civs Anonymous perhaps? Maybe I should seek help?
Soren: I would have gladly smash the CD on the ground if I thought for a second it would have saved our marriage.
It's really not fair she use that excuse though, she played Zelda on my GameBoy for months for many hours at a time.
Ah, this is an addiction of monumental proportions. Are there support groups? A Civs Anonymous perhaps? Maybe I should seek help?
Soren: I would have gladly smash the CD on the ground if I thought for a second it would have saved our marriage.
Nocturno
Chieftain
I just get my girlfriend to sit with me while i play lol.. she becomes Co-ruler.
Dont know how anyone could choose civ over their significant other though..
Dont know how anyone could choose civ over their significant other though..
supaguruzebidy
Kill,Kill,Kill,Kill,Kill!
Invade your neighbour and conquer him,then take his wife!!!If you dont like her trade her with another neighbour. PS I am sorry to hear about your loss,but look at it this way if she got jealous over you spending time with a game she musnt have loved you all that much.You need to tell her that people are not possesions and have freedom to follow their interests no matter how little they themselves are interested in them or fail to understand them.Plus if you do get back with her take heed and find some time to put aside just for the two of you.
PS I am sorry to hear about your loss,but look at it this way if she got jealous over you spending time with a game she musnt have loved you all that much.You need to tell her that people are not possesions and have freedom to follow their interests no matter how little they themselves are interested in them or fail to understand them.Plus if you do get back with her take heed and find some time to put aside just for the two of you.
spunkyjones
Chieftain
LOL, just because us old farts are married doesn't mean our life is over. I make time for the wife, the baby, the 100 year old house, friends, extended family,BUT just because I have all these responsibilities, doesn't mean I can't enjoy sneaking off to my office in the basement at 10 PM Friday or Saturday night and have some fun kicking the crap out of Ghandi or Lincoln.
Life doesn't end when you reach your 30's, soon to be 40's
!!!! Might be hard to believe, but you can still have fun after your teen years, and be responsible to the people in your life.[dance]
jb1964
Hunter of Fish
Here, here Mr. Jones!
As you might guess by the handle, jb1964, I'm also soon to be 40, May 16th actually. And I concur that you can do it all in moderation. Things I do other than Civ
Assistant scoutmaster & MB counselor for my boys troop
Swim official and proud parent of three swimmers that swim for fun
Read nightly with my daughter (Voyage of the Dawn Treader at the moment)
Stay home with the children on Moms night out!
Regularly lose chess games to my 11 year old. Im good but hes getting better.
However, though Im an engineer I have a healthy distaste for home repair. I did lay a paver patio last summer because I got to use a Bobcat to dig out the area. Now I get to pay someone to repair the damage I did to my yard. J
Anyway, for me playing Civ3, SFB, Starcraft, Bridge, Chess, Poker, Scrabble, Monopoly, Sorry, etc. is a great way to just have fun and/or get rid of the stress that is part of a much bigger life.
As you might guess by the handle, jb1964, I'm also soon to be 40, May 16th actually. And I concur that you can do it all in moderation. Things I do other than Civ
Assistant scoutmaster & MB counselor for my boys troop
Swim official and proud parent of three swimmers that swim for fun
Read nightly with my daughter (Voyage of the Dawn Treader at the moment)
Stay home with the children on Moms night out!
Regularly lose chess games to my 11 year old. Im good but hes getting better.
However, though Im an engineer I have a healthy distaste for home repair. I did lay a paver patio last summer because I got to use a Bobcat to dig out the area. Now I get to pay someone to repair the damage I did to my yard. J
Anyway, for me playing Civ3, SFB, Starcraft, Bridge, Chess, Poker, Scrabble, Monopoly, Sorry, etc. is a great way to just have fun and/or get rid of the stress that is part of a much bigger life.
sabo
My Ancestors were Vikings
Originally posted by sabo
My live-in girlfriend has never complained about my civ playing time (and believe me I play alot!) the only thing she says is "I know you love your game" what a sweetie huh? I think she might be wife material, the only thing I have to accomplish now is to get her into civ so we can "hotseat"
This has got to be a first, I'm qouting my own post!! But I just wanted to add that I talked to my girlfriend yesterday and she said "Now watching you play is one thing but you better forget about ever teaching me to play" she says she watches it and it looks to complicated for her.. oh well at least she lets me play
SanPellegrino
Wanderer
right, I can only second that (another 30something here, you guessed it)In all seriousness I am sorry about your wife, and hope you manage to patch things up. Im just about to pull out of my teenage years but still manage to fit university, a part-time job and copious amounts of socialising (although no woman currently) into my life. All the best for the future mate.
PS - thanks for clarifying that life doesn't end in your teens as my oncoming birthday was worrying me
PS - thanks for clarifying that life doesn't end in your teens as my oncoming birthday was worrying me
grishnak
Chieftain
I was stoned last night when I wrote that. My life is not that depressing as it seems
As a soon-to-be-50, let me just add my
I think that having fun playing computer games isn't a crime and that you should enjoy it. The part where it gets nasty is when it becomes a real addiction and that nothing else matters in your life (I've been there). When your whole life revolves around a game, maybe you should think of something else to do...
I introduced my dad to Civilization 1 and since then he's one of the most hardcore Civ player I know... we used to fight over who would take to computer (386) to play Civ... When Civ2 came out he bought it for me (although we both know it was as much for him as it was for me) as an early birthday present and he's still playing Civ2 to this day... Civ3 is too complex and they lost the spirit of the series (that's what he says although I disagree). He usually plays 2-3 hours of Civ each week day and 6 hours each day during the weekend.
My girlfriend is okay with me playing on the computer, although she thinks that I shouldn't spend most of my time with her by realizing my dreams of world domination...
I introduced my dad to Civilization 1 and since then he's one of the most hardcore Civ player I know... we used to fight over who would take to computer (386) to play Civ... When Civ2 came out he bought it for me (although we both know it was as much for him as it was for me) as an early birthday present and he's still playing Civ2 to this day... Civ3 is too complex and they lost the spirit of the series (that's what he says although I disagree). He usually plays 2-3 hours of Civ each week day and 6 hours each day during the weekend.
My girlfriend is okay with me playing on the computer, although she thinks that I shouldn't spend most of my time with her by realizing my dreams of world domination...
