Online dating

[Loppan Torkel]

There must be something to be said on this topic...
It's a pretty good way to expand the horizons, although there's a tendency for all using this method, I think, to end up looking for pro's and con's in partners. Probably not the most productive way to see things.

There a lot of guys with a preference for internet activity here. What's your experience of online dating?

 

[rugbyLEAGUEfan]

I'm old enough and lucky enough to have gotten into Internet dating aka casual sex when only the nastiest gals got into it....now it's just , well , all too common and awesomeness is far from assured

 

[Loppan Torkel]

I'm old enough and lucky enough to have gotten into Internet dating aka casual sex when only the nastiest gals got into it....now it's just , well , all too common and awesomeness is far from assured

Somehow nasty gals met online doesn't sound very awesome. I could be wrong though.

 

[Cutlass]

My sis met her husband that way. Seems to be working out for them.

 

[downtown]

I've done it, and several of my friends have done it too. My experience wasn't too bad actually. I could have easily had a date with a different pretty girl twice a week if I wanted...it's easier to screen out people that you would have *nothing* in common with up front as well.

I went on a few dates with kinda "weird" women, but with one exception (a woman who had 9 cats, all named after video game villains), they were all perfectly fine dates. I don't think I went on more than 3 dates with anybody I met on the internet though...it just because apparent that we weren't right for each other. I am still friends with two women I met on an online dating website though.

I met my wife (and really, all of my long term girlfriends) through other friends. If you are not very comfortable with in person interactions with people you don't know very well, or you are really afraid of rejection, online dating can be a nice tool. I got into it after I ended a pretty long term relationship, and could have used a little practice in "how to date". Being able to figure everything out with people who weren't really connected to the rest of my social circle helped too.

 

[Mr. Dictator]

I dated a girl from another board I used to frequent.

It ended terribly, but it was LD also. Why I thought this would work? I saw a "bonne aire" around her, through the cybertube.

 

[Commodore]

I met my wife through online dating. Of course one of the most shameful chapters in my life also came from online dating.

 

[Neonanocyborgasm]

There a lot of guys with a preference for internet activity here. What's your experience of online dating?

I haven't done it in over 4 years, but my experience was that it was only useful as a supplement to real world dating. Online dating requires an exchange of e-mails (or a chat exchange), which is a slow and tedious process. In that time, one could meet a dozen women. Online dating, therefore, served to cover the otherwise lost opportunity cost. (The time spent doing nothing that could be better served scouting for new prospects.) But nowadays, I hear that there are even smartphone apps that have bridged the gap between stranger and meet-up, serving as a convenient ice breaker. So perhaps online dating now can become almost equivalent to a real world scouting.

 

[Murky]

I've dated some women that I met online. It's not too bad.

 

[Disgustipated]

I dated a couple (first dates only), but mostly it was non-responses to my messages. It seems to me that women are really picky on those sites. This is relatively common from what I heard. With thousands of people to choose from, no one is willing to settle.

 

[Murky]

I dated a couple (first dates only), but mostly it was non-responses to my messages. It seems to me that women are really picky on those sites. This is relatively common from what I heard. With thousands of people to choose from, no one is willing to settle.

One problem is that most guys only go after the hottest women. So all the hottest women get thousands of messages to sort through on a daily basis. So if you only target the most beautiful women the chances of getting a response online are much lower. The best result I had was on eharmony where it matches you better than most sites. It's also a pay site so that automatically weeds out a lot of losers who don't have money or are just doing it for kicks.

 

[kochman]

I started doing this when I lived in Italy, it was a much easier way to meet women there...
It was still somewhat looked down upon in America.

I ended up meeting my ex-wife via online dating! Our failure had nothing to do with how we met and everything to do with getting married for the wrong reasons.

After her, I dated a mix of women, from real life encounters, and online.

At a minimum, it is like batting practice. You go out for a glass or 4 of wine, not a dinner right away, and see how it goes.

I never met another girl that I started dating consistently online, till now, and hope that my current women will preclude me from returning to the scene... not that I look down upon it, but because she's the best. And, I'm

 

[Leonel]

I've had generally good experiences with it. When I wasn't so sociable, it helped me gain confidence and figure out what I wanted in life in general. That was years ago and now I'm a little more confident in my abilities when I go to parties.

 

[Winner]

None. I once considered it briefly, but the thought that people I know in real life might find out was too scary for me to actually try.

Rationally, I don't think it's a bad thing. At least you meet new people and since both of you know it's about looking for a partner, some of the usual sources of misunderstanding and embarrassment aren't present.

 

[tycoonist]

I started doing this when I lived in Italy, it was a much easier way to meet women there...
It was still somewhat looked down upon in America.

I ended up meeting my ex-wife via online dating! Our failure had nothing to do with how we met and everything to do with getting married for the wrong reasons.

After her, I dated a mix of women, from real life encounters, and online.

At a minimum, it is like batting practice. You go out for a glass or 4 of wine, not a dinner right away, and see how it goes.

I never met another girl that I started dating consistently online, till now, and hope that my current women will preclude me from returning to the scene... not that I look down upon it, but because she's the best. And, I'm

Happy face

 

[Loppan Torkel]

I dated a couple (first dates only), but mostly it was non-responses to my messages. It seems to me that women are really picky on those sites. This is relatively common from what I heard. With thousands of people to choose from, no one is willing to settle.

I think you right, but it's most likely like that both ways.

 

[Disgustipated]

One problem is that most guys only go after the hottest women. So all the hottest women get thousands of messages to sort through on a daily basis. So if you only target the most beautiful women the chances of getting a response online are much lower. The best result I had was on eharmony where it matches you better than most sites. It's also a pay site so that automatically weeds out a lot of losers who don't have money or are just doing it for kicks.

What surprised me is even when I went after the ugly women, they still didn't respond. How can ugly women have such high standards. I don't get it.

I think you right, but it's most likely like that both ways.

This is probably true. I'm sure guys do it to women too.

 

[Loppan Torkel]

Did you try to alter the way you went after them? it might not change things for all, but there's a greater chance of getting a response after a somewhat thought-out mail in contrast to a "what's up?"

 

[Murky]

Here are some tips for online dating:

Include photos. A text only profile is going to get almost no responses. They won't know if you look like a regular guy or some weirdo/psycho. I recommend a good head-shot, one body shot (preferably doing some outdoor activity) and one photo with at least one woman beside you. The head-shot gives them a good idea of your health (including mental), the body shot shows how fit you are and the one with woman says she can trust you, and that she has competition.

You don't need to be over-ally long in your profile description. Just a blurb about what sort of activities you are into is a good idea. Gaming is okay, so long as you don't mind dating women gamers or nerdy women. But a shot sitting in front of a computer isn't particularly attractive to most women. They would rather see you doing something outside.

Don't post a pic of standing in front of the bathroom mirror (with or without your shirt) this turns them off fast.

 

[GenMarshall]

Never had any success with em :-/.