I couldn't find any thread on this in the search although I swear I made one once ages ago. What are you thoughts/orientations towards romance? Do you believe in marital bliss between two individuals? Would you down for extracurricular hanky-panky but too jealous to allow your partner to do the same? Do you think any opening of the relationship would be untenable? I feel like the popular imagination is pretty lacking in nuance regarding polyamory (getting slightly better with time but still pretty bad). It seems the average person thinks that someone either believes in love (i.e. : 1 on 1 4life) or they are a swinger/slut/womanizer with commitment issues. From what I've read there are a million and one ways to do the "open marriage" thing from a 'get out of jail free' card once a year with a don't-ask-don't-tell-just-be-safe policy to couples who literally share a house with their other mates and try to all be friends. For me personally, I never had monogamy fantasies & had always been curious about the multi-verse both from a typical male rap-star fantasy of having a harem to the thought that dealing with these dynamics (including my own jealousy) would help me grow as a person. I've never actually done it in a healthy manner in a relationship & am a bit trepidatious about announcing myself as this "orientation" upfront as A : it appears to cut downs my options 95% or more B : I've not ruled out that I could be happy in a monogamous relationship C : It seems like it's often something that is best talked about later in a relationship once both parties feel more comfortable/loved/trusted within the dyad Any experience in this realm? I know it's a very personal & touchy subject, but feel free to share 2nd hand stories, I too am only asking "for a friend".