I caught this comment from ControlFreak: I plan to reinstall civ when I convince my better half that sitting next to her with a laptop while she watches American Idol IS considered "Quality Time" I don't know if anyone's suggested it or not, but if you're really serious about making time for Civ, here's an arrow for your quiver: Help clean up after dinner. It might take 10 minutes, or it might take 30 ... depends if you use an automatic dishwasher or not. Get her to tell you what to do (don't take no for an answer) and the key: really talk to her about her day while you're doing it. Find out what's going on in her life, who she saw while she was out shopping, what's going on in her favorite soap opera, who she had to chew out at work ... pretty much anything you can get her to talk about. If this is a 10 minute job (including cleaning up babies, if you have a young one that can't clean itself), then try to keep the conversation going afterwards. It doesn't have to be 30 minutes every night, but think of it as investing Worker turns in your marriage. 30 minutes spent here, right after dinner, will give huge benefits later in the evening. "Quality Time" is another word for Communication. Watching TV for a couple of hours often falls short of the mark (particularly if you don't like the same sorts of shows). Once we've established our Communication Pump (usually complete by 700PM or 730PM), a lot of options become open. If you're tired, you can fort yourself in a chair somewhere and spend 30 minutes playing with the kids (assuming you have any). Let the kids do most of the work, picking the game and explaining how to play it, or reading a book. If you're feeling a little more aggressive, build some Warrior Points by doing something small out of the job jar, like testing smoke alarms, changing a few light bulbs, or nailing down a loose stair step. Occassionally, an Opportunity Target will be revealed during your earlier trade talks. With careful management (and practice ... no one is an expert the first time they play, no matter how many threads they've seen!), you'll soon find your hours from 8:00 to bedtime are your own 4 days out of the week, and your wife and children will be happier. Finally, remember that every game is unique, with unique challenges and opportunities. Be flexible. Don't decide that this game will be Space Race, and pass up a perfect opportunity for a 100k victory. A real life Deity has mastered all the game types, and is ready to jump on the most appropriate game plan, regardless of his preferred style. Mind you, I've never been married. I have been around the block once or twice, however, and I think these suggestions speak for themselves regardless of my personal experience. The most important thing is to approach it like you did the day you installed vanilla Civ: you won't play well your first game, and you might not even win ... but it's worth taking the time to master it. You married her, right?