Relationship deal-breakers....

[7ronin]

Less noble: you look at her mother and realize how she will look in 30 years.

But don't forget that she's probably looking at your father to get an idea of what you'll look like in thirty years.

 

[Eran of Arcadia]

For me, not being LDS is a deal breaker. I probably would never seriously date a non-Mormon in the first place, because I really can't see myself getting married to her no matter how much I might like her. This is because my religion is so important to me, not because I think that Mormons are inherently better people.

 

[Zuffox]

But don't forget that she's probably looking at your father to get an idea of what you'll look like in thirty years.

That had better not be true!

 

[Rambuchan]

I have a feeling you've just narrowed the selection quite a bit.

Oh yeah for sure. But I'm saying that I'm ok with shopping and soap addicts.

 

[downtown]

For me, not being LDS is a deal breaker. I probably would never seriously date a non-Mormon in the first place, because I really can't see myself getting married to her no matter how much I might like her. This is because my religion is so important to me, not because I think that Mormons are inherently better people.

It is pretty tricky for LDS people to seriously date non-Mormons. I've been (and I'd say fairly seriously) dating a non LDS girl (and in fact, an Athiest at that, and one who's parents had a fairly negative experience with the church) for about and a year and a half...there were no single Mormons in either of the areas that I've lived that I would consider dating.

To me, having vastly different values is the deal breaker. Me and my girlfriend have very similar standards (no drugs, very rarely drinks, and doesn't get drunk, moral person, etc)...and if that wasnt the case, the relationship wouldnt work. Not that we havent had disagreements....things would be a lot easier maybe if she was LDS, but thats how it goes.

I dont think Mormons are better people or anything, but if I was a non-member, I bet dating a mormon would be rough

 

[ybbor]

being an atheist or of a different religion (Judaism would be fine, as would the multiple denominations of Christianity, minus the Mormons and Jehovah's Witnesses, etc.). Maybe an agnostic or an undecided, as long as they're respectful to Christian beliefs and practices.

 

[WildFire]

She can't

-Smoke
-Have no sense of humor

Other then that..

 

[C~G]

Simple rule: Woman should be really like a dog, loyal and willing to do what her master wants her to do
Other than that joke:

- She cannot get along with people and cannot see others point of view.
- Poor or complete lack of sense of humour
- Acts like teenager who thinks she owns the world
- Acts like girl who just reached her puberty and got to know what sex is all about
- Only interested about beauty of her body, beauty of her clothes and jewelry, beauty of her partner and beauty of her surroundings
- Lack of passion and compassion towards anything
- Doesn't know what she wants from life or from me and why
- Thinks everyday life is dull, complaints about it and doesn't do anything about it
- Doesn't have any other dimensions to her life but dating & partying
- Is searching for the ultimate male without personality and thinks I'm the one
- Lives and dies by the moment, total lack of concentration or skill to be able to make long term plans and stick to them
- Isn't really conscious of her own actions and their results

And yes, I'm single at the moment. For solid and good reasons.

 

[Zardnaar]

Main ones being.
1. Smokes.
2. Accepts my geek habits (games, RPGs and CFC)
3. Drugs (pots ok a few times a year no stoners)

 

[Mathilda]

Breaking promises.

 

[Che Guava]

Wow, a lot of no-smoking's in there.

Are there any smokers who exclusively date smokers? Or non-smokers

 

[C~G]

For some it seems smoking means a lot but I guess it's iwhat you get used to.
I have kind of healthy living habits but I tolerate smokers.
But it's the overall personality that counts and smoking is one of the parts that add to it.

I met this one gal who I liked and was interested about not long ago. What was "interesting" about her is that she said that health wasn't too important for her and that's why she could smoke. Firstly I could mention she wasn't the most beautiful girl in the world even though I liked her looks. But at the same time she wanted to stay "forever young". Not to mention her clothes and also her mouth smelled like really bad. I cannot simply understand how this all add up? You want to be attractive and stay young, but you smoke?

I could have lived with those things though but not with the fact that she had in fact boyfriend in another city while trying to get ziggy with me and while having dates with other guys which she claimed to be only "friends". Of course she didn't sleep with them all but if you fish in more than one pond and don't catch any, you're still fishing, right?

I guess that's the logic of the opposite sex right there.
Did I mention already she tried to play the "hard to catch"-card?
In the end I just wasted my time with her.

 

[Zuffox]

Smoking is a big turn-off, but I'm not sure, whether I'd go so far as to "disqualify" a person over it... It'll inhibit the chances greatly, though.

 

[Caprice]

This is an interesting thread... kinda brings to mind just how drastically different my wife and I are from eachother while still being able to be relatively happy together.

I could go on for pages and pages about how different we are, but I won't because I doubt any of you really care that much about the marital idiosyncracies of strangers.

 

[CaptainF]

If she is:

-ugly
-sexually incompetent/unable to keep up with my libido
-in a constant diva/whiny mood
-annoyed by my taste in music
-a ********/political koolaid sipper of almost any sort
-a religious fundie that wants to force feed me her dogma
-a smoker
-dumb/stupid/shallow
-exceedingly materialistic/always wanting me to buy crap for her
-not receptive to my jokes
-a "gold medalist at the olympic mindgames", so to speak
-unfaithful/deceptive
-one of those people that has that special unwanted something...

then she gets the boot.

Yeah I know, i'm picky.

I would be willing to put up with:

-a religious girl that doesn't try to force it on me
-a political girl that doesn't try to force it on me
-an occasional pot smoker

EDIT-corrected some stuff.

 

[IglooDame]

My wife smokes, I never have; I'd probably have listed smoking as a deal-breaker prior to meeting her, but #1 the positives way outweigh that negative, and #2 it makes my addictions to Mt Dew and Civ guilt-free.

 

[North King]

Well, not much.

--Unintelligent.
--Intolerant.

That sums it all up quite nicely, I think.

 

[GenMarshall]

For me that would break the deal for me:
- Past infidelity
- Inability to trust
- Rude to people
- Anti-Catholic
- Smoker
- Drug user

For me, not being LDS is a deal breaker. I probably would never seriously date a non-Mormon in the first place, because I really can't see myself getting married to her no matter how much I might like her. This is because my religion is so important to me, not because I think that Mormons are inherently better people.

What if the girl you are interested in non-Mormon but is a seeker looking for a faith and possibly considering on converting to the Mormon faith?

 

[IglooDame]

Did I mention "is afraid of guns and/or refuses to allow them in the house"?

 

[Tenochtitlan]

must be not religious
must have good taste in music
must take care of her appearance
must have a positive outlook and life and be openminded
must have sense of humor