rough times...

[darkChild]

i have been having some rough times lately in my life. i thought this could be a good place to spill some stuff out...

i guess the short of it is i broke up with my love of 3 years. its not really that long a time, but it was.. amazing. then, well... **** happens. im on my own again. i know it will take a long time to forget her, but im doing ok by myself. its hard though, so many feelings churning around, sometimes if i think about it too hard i feel sick.

music really helps. i realized why linkin park is such a good band. its not becuase their sound is super new or anything, (not saying their sound is bad) its because their lyrics are so good. i can really relate to a lot of their songs... i hate it when people say their just a bunch of kids or something like that, because it songs on mtv get played too much and are shown in the wrong way(if that makes sense) you really have to hear the whole cd before you go and say they suck.

anyway, im here now. i only have 2 real freinds, and my family is stuck in my past. life is sucking.

 

[Flatlander Fox]

Not to sound callous, but maybe listen to something with a little less screaming... You'd be suprised how much that will help...

Try some Pink Floyd, or perhaps Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers...

The Wildflowers Album, track 14... Cry a bit, then get on your feet and face the world.

 

[Blackadder]

Hmmmm, it is brave of you to share your feelings over the internet with complete strangers, or perhaps this is the perfect way to relieve the burden of problems.

Anyway, I type now 'Don't worry', for civ-fanatics are (on the whole) here to support those burdened by problems. Perhaps if you wrote more about the events in your life, you will be able to relieve the depression it sounds your under.

Or you could look at things this way you still have two true friends, even a time-warped family must love you, and you still have a life to live.

Everybody has had hard times in their lives, but most have bounced back, bigger and better than before..
Sigmund Freud, noted Psycologist, in his youth, supported the 'medicinal' usage of certain drugs which have been found out to be deadly nowadays.
Did the Russian people give up when Hitler invaded them in the Second World war?
Did J.R.R. Tolkien say 'oh life sucks, I can't be bothered to write this trilogy?'
Did the designers of Civ stop working on the computer game due to the difficulty of making a new game?
Life gets all of us down sometimes, but only momentarily. When it is our darkest hour, there is always one thing that drives us on, Hope. Remember the story of Pandora's box when life gets you down.

 

[Maj]

Here's a tip to help avoid or escape the blues:

Don't set goals that are impossible or near impossible to attain. If you're feeling down and are trying to juggle a few far-fetched dreams, lay them aside and focus on the smaller details (read a book, finish some chores, etc.) in your life. Once you start on the path of accomplishing at least some of your subtler nuances you'll find your spirits will rise to the greater challenges you had once put on the higher shelves.

Most important though is to realize is that if you want to escape depression, the effort will have to come chiefly from your own desire to break free of the dark thoughts that plague your mornings, noons, and nights. It's ok to depend on others for support, but don't expect their strength alone to rip you free of your shackled existence.

And try not to listen to bands that go on about how much life can suck. You may find yourself relating to a lot of their wordplay but don't expect that to help you much in the long run. But I'm not you and if you really thing their music is inspiring or supportive, listen away.

Maybe I'm just being too melodramatic. Try smoking crack instead

- Maj

 

[CornMaster]

I went through a bad time in Sept/Oct. so I decided to make a life change. I'm moving home to Canada.

Of course....living in Canada that's not an option....but evaluate your recent doings.......and see what has changed. Changing it back could be the cure.

 

[ComradeDavo]

darkChild, I know the feeling dude! Don't worry, your not the only one that feels like that, many people do whever they want to admit it or not. It may feel like it, but your not alone on this one.

 

[Sixchan]

music really helps. i realized why linkin park is such a good band. its not becuase their sound is super new or anything, (not saying their sound is bad) its because their lyrics are so good. i can really relate to a lot of their songs... i hate it when people say their just a bunch of kids or something like that, because it songs on mtv get played too much and are shown in the wrong way(if that makes sense) you really have to hear the whole cd before you go and say they suck.

While I do see them as a bunch of kids in a pop group, kids can make good music and so can pop musicians (although it IS rare).

I know how you feel, though. I recently got out of a long relationship (my brief love affair with Becka doesn't count). What's sad is that we were great together (who will make the first joke about sex? Bets please!), and I had to move back to Scotland. Music did help and linkin park weren't a part of that, as my relationship ended in true black and white film style with tears, a hug, and a kiss.

If it ended well, I'd recommend Moby. If it ended badly, play Kim by Eminem. Ooo:enlighten:. Actually, don't play Kim, download aerith's theme from FFVII and think about other things (Mind you, all you Nu-Metal fans probably don't like great classical music)

 

[PinkyGen]

Originally posted by Flatlander Fox
Not to sound callous, but maybe listen to something with a little less screaming... You'd be suprised how much that will help...

Try some Pink Floyd, or perhaps Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers...

Yes, Floyd is a wonderfully depressing. I recommend Dark Side of the Moon or Wish You Were Here. The Wall is good if actualy want to feel better at the end, as this absolutely uplifts you.

Anyways, cheer up, and in the word of another Monty Python song "Always Look on the Bright Side of Life." (this one wonderfully ironic)

 

[VoodooAce]

Originally posted by Flatlander Fox
Not to sound callous, but maybe listen to something with a little less screaming... You'd be suprised how much that will help...

Try some Pink Floyd, or perhaps Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers...

The Wildflowers Album, track 14... Cry a bit, then get on your feet and face the world.

Pink Floyd gets my approval.

But I think most of us can sympathize with you and have been there.

No matter how dark things seem, and nobody can tell you how long it will take you, and it may not seem like it right now, but there is an end to it. You do get over it and through it.

 

[darkChild]

just because i like "nu-metal" doesnt mean i dont have other tastes...

i am a great fan of all music, U2 and the beatles are two of my favorite bands. and i love classical music, including FF music.

 

[Morgasshk]

Listens to whatever makes you feel better dude...

It sucks when you lose the person you thought was the one... but hey, just realize, ok, crap, I guess she wasn't THE ONE, now I'll have to keep looking...

There'll be someone out there for you and she'll fix everything fer ya!

Life sux at times but it can only get worse or better! Duh!

Keep it real.

morgasshk

 

[sw99]

Darkchild: You might not even want to read this as it might make you a little more depressed.

I've been feeling quite down recently as 3 days ago was the 1 year anniversary of me splitting up with the girl i was with 3 years. We actually broke up on the anniversary of us meeting, so it was exactly 3 years we were together (i was 18 when i met her, 21 when we split). We had a great time and i'm not going to go into the reasons we broke up but basically it had to happen. Essentially when you've been with someone that long, and i'm guessing you're a fairly similar age to me, it becomes very hard to forget them completely. I'm ok now, it doesn't bother me to the extent that i can't do anything else, but it stays at the back of your mind.

I think the only way to completely get over a relationship that important (at such a young age too) is to find another relationship that at least approaches the level of the first one.

I'm probably rambling a bit (just got home from a club and i'm a little drunk, ok a lot) but yeah, the funny thing is, i look back and i've got such a better impression now of what our relationship WAS like, than when i was actually with her. It's definately made me value relationships a lot more now. But it has also made me more wary of them.

But the whole point of my post, and probably something that might have helped me a year ago, is don't underestimate how much of an impression that 3 years relationship has had on your life. I made the mistake of believing i would forget about her eventually. 1 year on i know that that isn't going to happen (unless i meet the perfect girl). Accept the fact that she has been a big part of your life, i'm only just coming to terms with that fact