Discussion in 'Off-Topic' started by Rossiya, Sep 6, 2006.
Yeah, she would laugh at me rather than with me.
They probably know it subconsciously, but I don't think bringing that fact to their attention does my chances any good.
First, not all guys are looking for a sexual relationship. I'm not, for instance. Second, these days that is more likely to get you sued for sexual harassment than get you laid, or at the very least a slap upside the head. I think the odds of her just agreeing to have sex with some random guy she doesn't know very well just because he asked up front on the bus aren't very good.
I agree with this! I ain't really looking for a sexual relationship, especially with some girl I don't know well, I don't know really. I'm 16 soon, so anything can happen.
She seems so damn out of reach that it's unbelievable. I even felt like that when she was sitting less than half a metre away from me.
Hey Chris! any updates?
No, I didn't get the bus today because I was at the dentist. There will be an update tomorrow though.
I went public during the weekend, I told my mum all about it. She is sympathetic about it.
Well, good luck with that.
Great! Remember: it's all in your head
Do not put this girl on a pedastal. Treat her as just another person you talk too. The more you hype her up, the more its going to be disappointing. Just shoot the breeze and have fun and stop pressuring yourself. They can sense that.
I had like, 2 dates in high school. I was too busy studying and playing tennis. The dates were also horrible (but they were cute!) When i got to college, my options were more numerous, and there were more activities/things to do, and I had alot of dates with a wide range of girls.
I only got really successful with women when I stopped caring about attracting them and started caring about enjoying my life.
That is one of the "strategies".
It doesn't mean it will work for all of us or that is some kind of general principle to all relationships.
Personally I have noticed how much time I and other people have used in useless relationships "just having fun" when there have been other kind of choices available.
The amount of options doesn't mean that you find better solutions than having less options.
Quantity doesn't necessarily show in quality.
But of course you are right about this. Some women do like they are put on the pedestal as long as man still behaves like a man but the problem is that when the relationship actually gets going, both parties will be usually seriously disappointed since the preassumptions aren't based into reality but into complete fantasy.
Yes, I'm trying to not think about it at all.
11 pages and no result?? this is getting boring. Tell her that if she doesn't date you the members of cfc that have spent a lot of time trying to make this work are going to hack her machine
by "just having fun" I mean outside relationships...Not in a relationship and having it be hollow and not meaningful. You entirely misread my post, and subsequently, my point.
Let me spell out my point clearly. A girl will not make one happy. A girl may make one happier. The quality of girl that I will attract will depend in part upon the quality of the life that I am leading.
When I was in college, I enjoyed the following : poker, bowling, swing dancing, camping and kayaking, movies, and live comedy shows at the Whole World Theater. I went out and did those things. Amazingly enough, because I was out enjoying my life, I had a positive vibe, which drew girls to me. (ditto for my friends).
If you don't enjoy your life, why would having someone else change that? It won't. You have to enjoy your life first to have a meaningful, fun, fulfilling relationship with someone that you didn't settle for.
Good God, you are right, I notice it now that I entirely misread it. I apologize.
Quoted for the truth. (could have quoted entire post)
Sweet. If it were my parents, they'd be dissapointed in me. They'd be mad that I even liked someone, saying how it would disrupt my studies. This is why relationships won't work well with me.
My mum believes that if someone has something to look forward to at the weekends or after school, such as a girlfriend, that person will perform better at school, and all of the rest of it.
They think that they would just blow off school in anticipation of the weekends.
Life's a beach sometimes.
Well, all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy
C'mon, 11 pages. Do it already...
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