SonicX
Emperor
Hi, I'm about to ask a rather personal question and I know it's not the best place to do it, but none of you guys know me in person and sometimes it seems like it's the least risky path to clarify some things.
There will be stupid comments, but hey, that's to be expected.
Anyway, as I told previously I have got a light form of autism called Asperger Syndrome which causes a high IQ, but low EQ. Since I knew that, I've always thought that I could overcome the social handicaps I had with rational thought, but lately I'm beginning to realise that hasn't been true at all.
The problems that arise with this, is that my social life is never going the way I want it to be and I do mean never. No one notices anything about this "condition", for lack of a better word, but subconciously they're keeping their distance. They all think of me as a nice, honest, sociable person and don't see anything wrong with me and don't know why nothing is working out for me.
Despite me being quite a likable person according to many, I just can't seem to make friends. They're all friendly to me, and when I call them to arrange something for going out in the evening, none of them are saying or even just thinking "no, you're weird", so far so good. But I'm always a friend nice to have around, but not one they contact on their own... I can't even remember the last time someone came to my dorm or my house without me asking them to come over and I can't recall any calls either and as you might imagine, that's not a very happy thing to deal with, especially because no one dislikes or can point out things about me that might cause this to happen, no matter what I do or how I act.
Somehow it always will go wrong, it was like that in elementary school, it still is like that at university...
Despite looking not bad at all, I'm not even gonna mention girls (and again, I do act and I am behaving socially and I do have the courage when needed)
Ofcourse, not knowing what to do about all this and why everything, absolutely everything goes is very depressing. Over the years, I have learned to control emotions and even disable them at times as I'm doing right now (I don't feel anything right now, just want advice)
I did this as a measure of self-protection, because my emotions always stabbed me in the back, never really turned out ok. But a side effect of disabling emotions is not feeling happyness, joy, having a crush on someone (being in love even) ... all of that is gone as well.
But once I turn that barrier of rational control off, I instantaneously break down. I tried to do it earlier today, thought about everything and stuff, but pure mental agony and despair took control... it kinda looks like there's no way out and I need to accept this "condition" and it's effects, but I cried for hours until I blocked them again and could continue doing what I had to do for school without disturbance.
So I'm having doubts ... I really doubt that I'll ever be happy because there is not really a way to fix this problem, no matter how aimable I might be. I don't wanna fall into a deep, deep depression on the verge of suicide again like I did during my whole puberty when I couldn't block emotions yet, but I don't really feel like living like a robot and not experiencing anything outside of the rational world anymore. Damn, I'd give up my dorm at college and all my posession except clothing just to have a "normal" life if that was possible.
Please, I do expect some to make fun of me or whatever, I'll overlook that But those of you who might know something or know someone with the same condition, any advice would be very welcome.
It's not the best place to ask, but I'm kinda out of options ...
*MOD* Can't seem to change thread titles on this board. Title must've been "least unhealthy" instead of "unhealthy" ofcourse.
There will be stupid comments, but hey, that's to be expected.
Anyway, as I told previously I have got a light form of autism called Asperger Syndrome which causes a high IQ, but low EQ. Since I knew that, I've always thought that I could overcome the social handicaps I had with rational thought, but lately I'm beginning to realise that hasn't been true at all.
The problems that arise with this, is that my social life is never going the way I want it to be and I do mean never. No one notices anything about this "condition", for lack of a better word, but subconciously they're keeping their distance. They all think of me as a nice, honest, sociable person and don't see anything wrong with me and don't know why nothing is working out for me.
Despite me being quite a likable person according to many, I just can't seem to make friends. They're all friendly to me, and when I call them to arrange something for going out in the evening, none of them are saying or even just thinking "no, you're weird", so far so good. But I'm always a friend nice to have around, but not one they contact on their own... I can't even remember the last time someone came to my dorm or my house without me asking them to come over and I can't recall any calls either and as you might imagine, that's not a very happy thing to deal with, especially because no one dislikes or can point out things about me that might cause this to happen, no matter what I do or how I act.
Somehow it always will go wrong, it was like that in elementary school, it still is like that at university...
Despite looking not bad at all, I'm not even gonna mention girls (and again, I do act and I am behaving socially and I do have the courage when needed)
Ofcourse, not knowing what to do about all this and why everything, absolutely everything goes is very depressing. Over the years, I have learned to control emotions and even disable them at times as I'm doing right now (I don't feel anything right now, just want advice)
I did this as a measure of self-protection, because my emotions always stabbed me in the back, never really turned out ok. But a side effect of disabling emotions is not feeling happyness, joy, having a crush on someone (being in love even) ... all of that is gone as well.
But once I turn that barrier of rational control off, I instantaneously break down. I tried to do it earlier today, thought about everything and stuff, but pure mental agony and despair took control... it kinda looks like there's no way out and I need to accept this "condition" and it's effects, but I cried for hours until I blocked them again and could continue doing what I had to do for school without disturbance.
So I'm having doubts ... I really doubt that I'll ever be happy because there is not really a way to fix this problem, no matter how aimable I might be. I don't wanna fall into a deep, deep depression on the verge of suicide again like I did during my whole puberty when I couldn't block emotions yet, but I don't really feel like living like a robot and not experiencing anything outside of the rational world anymore. Damn, I'd give up my dorm at college and all my posession except clothing just to have a "normal" life if that was possible.
Please, I do expect some to make fun of me or whatever, I'll overlook that But those of you who might know something or know someone with the same condition, any advice would be very welcome.
It's not the best place to ask, but I'm kinda out of options ...
*MOD* Can't seem to change thread titles on this board. Title must've been "least unhealthy" instead of "unhealthy" ofcourse.