This is based on another thread based on a thread startde by Masquerouge (see below), but this time the setting is a bit different.
We have two new persons:
#1 is someone your partner to be. He/she tells you he/she has had a lot of (sex)partners in the past and may not be able to change this sort of behaviour just for your relationship.
#2 is your partner with whom you have a longlasting relationship and who loves you very much. He/she cheated on you once, but is afraid to tell you because it will ruin your relationship. He/she swore to him/herself that he/she will never do it again, because she felt sick afterwards.
Both persons have had no STDs from their sexual adventures.
Which one is the most moral person, #1 or #2?
We have two new persons:
#1 is someone your partner to be. He/she tells you he/she has had a lot of (sex)partners in the past and may not be able to change this sort of behaviour just for your relationship.
#2 is your partner with whom you have a longlasting relationship and who loves you very much. He/she cheated on you once, but is afraid to tell you because it will ruin your relationship. He/she swore to him/herself that he/she will never do it again, because she felt sick afterwards.
Both persons have had no STDs from their sexual adventures.
Which one is the most moral person, #1 or #2?
Who is the most moral person in your eyes?
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We have two persons.
Person A, who is not married, has a very active sexual life with lots of different partners. Person A is very upfront and clear about this, and all of person A's partners are fully aware of it. Person A does not hide anything about the multiple partners to anyone, and never trick someone into having sex by pretending long-term commitment. Person A has always been very careful about STD and pregnancy and has successfully managed to avoid both - neither person A nor the partners unwillingly got pregnant or got an STD.
Person B has been married for the same person for more than 30 years. Person B has always been faithful, except on one occasion, where Person B had an affair that was short-lived. Person B never told person B's partner about the affair, has always kept it a secret and has lied a lot to cover it. And again, no STD or pregnancies resulted from the affair.
Who do you think is the most moral person of the two?
To me what matters the most is not who you have sex with and how often, what's important is not lying, not deceiving and not cheating people.
Thus, to me person B is much more immoral than person A.