So there's this girl on my bus...

As the title suggests, there is this girl on my bus, absolute gem. The bus takes us and many others from our schools to our homes, a 20 minute process.

Now, this has been going on for months, where most days she would glance at me, for a considerable time, eye to eye. With this, and many other things, I have ascertained that she likes me, no doubt.

The problem is that she is obviously waiting for me to make the move to talk to her. The other problem, possibly worst than the first one, is that I simply cannot bring myself to talk to her because I do not know how I could keep a conversation going; I don't know what to talk about.

We have just got back from the summer holidays and I have been thinking of her quite a bit, thinking of how I could approach her and talk to her. I promised to myself that on the first day back I would go straight up and talk to her. But it gets to the first day coming home, and I can't do it. It gets to the second day, and I can't do it. This was today. But this time, the last second of her gaze seemed to be quite annoyed from her, as if she has given up with me.

There has been a few times when we have had very short conversations, all going well. For some reason, I feel absolutely incapable of talking to her again.

And now that she is in the sixth form, she wears her own clothes, and she looks even better, making me sad.

I know I am not the only guy with this problem. Other people can vent their problems too here, if you want.

So, I have decided to seek the help of real people, to see what you people think I should do to overcome my situation and take the girl!

Just talk to her. Let her do the talking. Find out things that she's talking about, and try and expand on it.

If that doesn't work, just tell her you know this totally awesome dude in the states named Turner, and she'll be putty in your paws.

Thanks Turner, but I wouldn't really know what to talk about. I'm not sure whether I would just burst into tears when not knowing what to talk about, or if I would be just fine. It's her friends though as well, they make the approaching 10 times worse, as anyone normal person will know.

You start talking to her, let her do the talking.

This is school, right? Does she follow the sports teams? Can you talk about a recent game or something?

Sometimes it can be tough approaching a girl. I understand, I've been there. But you know what? If you don't try, you're going to regret it. Who knows what would have happened? If you don't try, you'll never know. And that's worse than being shot down. (I'm speaking from experience here.)

You need doodadas. Just do it. You gotta be in it to win it.

Do you dare me to do it tomorrow? Gimme 10 virtual pounds if I do please.

Dude, that's the wrong way to go about it.

Don't do this on a dare. Don't do this for us. Do it for yourself.

Dude, if you're really desperate, talk to her about school. Or, as you mentioned she wears her own clothes, perhaps compliment her in some shape or form (not creepy, I've fallen into that before and it's very difficult to get out of)

Perhaps try to sit closer to her on the bus so, perhaps on the journey, you could turn to her and say 'hey' Don't automatically start deep conversations, take it slowly and build up. That's what I'd do. I know the friends can be EVIL but the goal is worth it is it not? Also, if she is with her friends don't try to muscle in on the conversation cause I've done that and it'll just annoy the friends who's talking which will then make it harder overall for you to talk to the girl

In England, it's said for a jokey way. It basically means whether you think I should do it tomorrow.

I know if I never talk to her I shall regret it to my dying day. There are so many chances that I feel that I should have taken. I could eat myself alive how much of an idiot I feel.

Movies, Music Artists, Sports, New Events, School, Classes, Funny Story, Jokes, etc...

The list is unending. It's all setup for you, the girl, the talking, the dates, all you have to do is sit next to her.

I think you should do it when you're ready to do it. And you'll do it when you're ready.

steviejay said:

(not creepy, I've fallen into that before and it's very difficult to get out of)

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This line and your avatar go hand in hand.

I'd be careful with the jokes until you get to know her better. Wouldn't want to offend her right off the bat.

It feels right to be talking to her. When I have been talking to her before for short times, it just felt "right", capisce?

It just seems so simple when typing it, walk onto bus, sit next to her/ask her to sit next to me, talk to her, etc etc. It's when I'm there, on the bus, that I just can't do it at the moment.

My excuse why I didn't do it today was because I felt ill and tired in the morning and I really was quite sweaty after doing two laps of the fields.

You said she wears her own clothes? Complement her on them.

I had the same experance in 10th grade. One day I mustered up the courage to say 'you have an excellent style in fashion'

If you still can't do it, try drinking a lot of caffine =p

Alright, how about this.

Go up to her and start talking about anything. Weather, music, whatever. When she gets going, gently interrupt her and say "Hey, this is great, but I've got to get over there and do that thing. Here's my AIM. IM me tonight, and we can discuss this more."

If she IMs you, you're golden. And if not, you have an excuse to start another coversation with her. Following up on the previous one, not asking her why she didn't IM you. In fact, it would be best to never bring that up. Ever. At all. Forget it happened. Or didn't, as the case may be.

chrisrossi said:

Thanks Turner, but I wouldn't really know what to talk about.

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Well, you're gonna have to figure out some common interests. Football? Music? Something on TV maybe? The Borat movie? Something related to your school? European Union expansion? Civil Rights? Chemistry? The latest reality TV show?

There's plenty of stuff to talk about - she's obviously interested in you so she'll listen to anything you have to say. Talk about things that interest you.. if they interest her too - even better.

What do you talk to your friends about? You do that, right? Approach conversations with her the same way.

Yes, that is also a good idea, as are all the ideas that you people have given me. Thank you to you all. I think it's just doing it now...

By the way Turner, do I have to ask a mod to modify my name a little? I would just like to alter it a little.

All name changes need to go through Thunderfall. PM him, and he'll decide if it gets done or not.

warpus said:

Well, you're gonna have to figure out some common interests. Football? Music? Something on TV maybe? The Borat movie? Something related to your school? European Union expansion? Civil Rights? Chemistry? The latest reality TV show?

There's plenty of stuff to talk about - she's obviously interested in you so she'll listen to anything you have to say. Talk about things that interest you.. if they interest her too - even better.

What do you talk to your friends about? You do that, right? Approach conversations with her the same way.

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The fact that she's a girl makes it 1000% more hard to talk to her. She wears very fashionable clothes, like an Italian almost.