So you don't necessarily think its a sin, but that we shouldn't drink it for pragmatic reasons?
I do think whether alcohol has the "Appearance of evil" depends on context. I would never drink it around an alcoholic or ex-alcoholic. However, not everyone is made to stumble by alcohol, and drinking an occasional alcoholic drink at home or in a restaurant may have no such effect on people.
Also keep in mind different cultures. In the US alcohol is completely banned until age 21, but in Italy wine is frequently drunk by children. We have more drunkenness here