The problem being
that the solutions that work for everyone else don't seem to work for you. I wonder which is more probable: that you have a weird copy of Civ V where ideology unhappiness is really impossible and broken, or that you're just not doing good enough yourself?
I already made these suggestions in another thread. These have worked for the others, I don't see why you can't use them.
- Don't get influenced in the first place (produce more culture and tourism, beware of open borders, shared religion, trade routes)
- As a corollary, get great works and invest on archaeologists
- Take out the offending culture with military force
- Choose the same ideology as the offending culture (if they get to go first)
- Have your ideology voted as the world ideology
- Get more happiness to nullify the ideological unhappiness
- Switch ideologies to the pressuring one
If you can't get these to work, play on lower difficulty levels until you're familiar with the system.
i am just really stubborn about my ideology, i really enjoy playing with the specialist bonuses that freedom gives, and lately i have been trying to focus on culture and such to try and keep freedom, so by the time i need to use the option to switch, the amount of unhappiness i gain by losing my specialist bonuses pretty much negate any bonus i would have gotten by switching to order... i have managed to somewhat reduce the unhappiness effect (i destroyed france), but its only a stop gap since it just gets worse over time anyways. i have never been able to propose any policies to the world order, and at best i think i have managed 5 votes, so the combined effort of the 5-9 civs in the game that always cluster order, i never have any opportunity to fight it from getting passed
also, the difficulty i play on is already pretty low (prince) and i always get ideologies way before everyone else with factories, i feel like, this part of the game difficulty is out of pace with the rest of it
also, frustratingly, if you have the same amount of influence for your ideology, as someone else is influencing you with another, you gain the unhappiness, its not a stalemate, frustrating!
also, just to address some of your individual points, i went full indiana jones in this game, i grabbed up every site i was able to reach as early as possible, tried to grab as many culture wonders, even went piety to try and get influence from religion as well, anything i could to push my influence outward
i have never sucessfully been able to not get influenced, i dont understand that point at all, 400+ culture nearly 200 tourism wasent enough, i really dont think either of these has anything to do with ideology dissidents anymore