Tenochtitlan
Supreme Commander
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Tell her, you only live once. Besides, maybe she's in love with you too. You're not risking the friendship by telling her anyway.
I know, that's why I'm treading carefully, or at least trying to.C~G said:So what were the good news again?
Why I have feeling this whole thing is labeled with "BAD IDEA" all over it. And you will be labeled after this with "handle with care".
You know, I hadn't thought of it that way, I was thinking until now more in the ball park of just throwing it all on the table. Perhaps this is the way to go.As you are friends I would suggest you talk about dating with her and how she sees the subject, after gentle discussion you can move if the signs are right to the question whether she's interest or not.
They had been dating for two years; she wanted kids, he didn't, and they went their ways. But they play this "we're on hiatus" game, it's mostly the guy; and go off and date other people and stuff, and all they do is piss and moan about stuff the other person does. " Not at the right point in our lives to get back together" is the words the guy uses. I'm ready to tell them, both being my friends: " it's been a year, youy two need to decide what the hell you want, because you can't play this game for the rest of your life," that would solve my dilemma right there, too, at least, part of it.I don't want to sound too rude but you should really try to get to know why the ex and she broke-up. I fear that woman has "spoiled goods" written all over her, which might be partly a bad thing and yet again good thing for you depending from various reasons especially how you want the possible relationship end up being.
That's something else that worries me. Perhaps I see what I want to see, because of my feelings for her. The reality of the situation may be quite different from what I percieve it to be.But I would imagine your own perceptions about her are probably flawed as you might be quite seriously fallen for her.
They had been dating for two years; she wanted kids, he didn't, and they went their ways. But they play this "we're on hiatus" game, it's mostly the guy; and go off and date other people and stuff, and all they do is piss and moan about stuff the other person does. " Not at the right point in our lives to get back together" is the words the guy uses. I'm ready to tell them, both being my friends: " it's been a year, youy two need to decide what the hell you want, because you can't play this game for the rest of your life," that would solve my dilemma right there, too, at least, part of it.
They do NOT live together, or hang out, but they do talk, sometimes.
Cheezy the Wiz said:That's something else that worries me. Perhaps I see what I want to see, because of my feelings for her. The reality of the situation may be quite different from what I percieve it to be.
IglooDude said:You might lose two friendships instead of one.
There's a third option - ask your friend-who's-the-ex whether he's cool with you hooking up with his ex.
Cheezy the Wiz said:What's a guy to do?
I'm normally the kind of guy who would say "well tell her moron!" but this case is different. You see, not only is she my best friend, but she's also the ex of a good friend of mine. That's where the situation gets hairier, for reasons you can see.
My dilemma is that I don't know which is more valuable to me: her friendship while I keep all this bottled up and under control, or telling her, and most likely losing my best friend, but the conflict inside me is resolved, and I can go on with my life.
Why can't this stuff be simple, you know, cut and dry?
AFAIK, it is called morning glory, and it is quite common.So, you wake up in the morning and realize you're in love with your best friend...
Though, I might wind up playing TR to his Colombia, and just do it whether he likes it or not!
Cheezy the Wiz said:What's a guy to do?
I'm normally the kind of guy who would say "well tell her moron!" but this case is different. You see, not only is she my best friend, but she's also the ex of a good friend of mine. That's where the situation gets hairier, for reasons you can see.
My dilemma is that I don't know which is more valuable to me: her friendship while I keep all this bottled up and under control, or telling her, and most likely losing my best friend, but the conflict inside me is resolved, and I can go on with my life.
Why can't this stuff be simple, you know, cut and dry?
Cheezy the Wiz said:I don't know, apparently my interpretation of a woman's 'hints' is seriously flawed, as per personal experience.
She is 23, I am 18, going to be 19 here in about two months.
She is also my manager at work, but it's just a Ruby Tuesday, if all it took was to leave Ruby's so it wouldn't be 'against company policy' (which she's shown disregard for before, having dated another employee once upon a time), I would do it in a heartbeat.
I know women usually go for older men rather than younger men, but the guy I mentioned above was only a year older than me. If it's any more of an argument for the age thing, most people meet me and think I'm 20-21, before I tell them.