LucyDuke
staring at the clock
You're not saying this flat out, but you don't seem to be acknolaging the fact that the articles are actully written by people who want to help.
Yes, the articles are written by people who want to help. I acknowledge that. People who are concerned with, for consistency's sake, eyeshadow and dieting. People who want to help women select the right eyeshadow and be successful in their diets. Now, I don't have any problem with that. The problem I have is when those become someone's biggest priorities, and these magazines showcase a lifestyle where the biggest concerns are eyeshadow and dieting. Yes, these people want to help. Their help is shallow and misguided.
Women who lack confidence can't use a magizine a scapegoat, they have to get over their problem on their own.
First of all, I agree that they have to get over their problem on their own, because there isn't much help to be had. Narz had a very good point.
Nobody (that matters) is using a magazine as a scapegoat. Not even 13-year-old Lucy. The magazine does not exist in a vacuum, and it does not publish itself. The magazine on its own is just a magazine.
The problem is the greater culture of airbrushed bikini women and hairstyled shampoo commercials. Yes, it is a culture. There's no pressure on you, young teenage boy, to fit in a size 6 dress or to have pedicure-perfect toenails, so you might not notice it. But it's there, and even those of us who can see it for the bullspit it is can feel the pressure. If I feel comfortable and sexy without hair gel and mascara, it's hard to make money off of me. I need to be convinced that if I don't have this season's hot new look, I'm going to be shunned in public, men aren't going to want me, women are going to laugh at me, and children aren't going to respect me. I'm supposed to think I'm worthless without expensive jeans. That's what the marketing machines for the cosmetics, haircare, fashion, so-on industries are pounding down our throats every time we walk out the front door. You know who pays Cosmo's bills, right? They don't exactly advertise Chevrolets and Cheerios.
The problem isn't that women wear makeup. The problem is that women are made to feel like they have to wear makeup. And whether you see it or not, Cosmo reinforces just that. Every person in that magazine is photoshopped and that is presented as the standard - a standard even Cindy Crawford says she can't live up to.
Now, again, if you want a girlfriend whose biggest priority is looking like a magazine bimbo with $30 lip gloss and "driving him wild in bed with 23 ultra-secret sex techniques he'd never tell you", well, I guess it would be wise to buy a copy of Cosmo for your live-action blow-up-doll. But when you grow up and want to find a real woman who gets pimples and wakes up with bed hair and knows how to give a blow-job without consulting step-by-step instructions, be careful you don't drive her off with Cosmopolitan porn-sex expectations.