OK, here is a quick little dating scenario to discuss. It involves dating rules dealing with dating friends' exes, how long before you can, is it ever acceptable, what situations make it acceptable, etc, etc.
Your best buddy is dating a girl and falls in love with her. After about 4 months of them dating, though, she breaks it off with out much explanation. Apparantly, she just wasn't interested in him the way he was in her. He is heartbroken, seroiously hurt.
You are somewhat friendly with this girl through school and mutual friends. When you return to your old job (you've been traveling) you find she works there and you are forced to work in a somewhat social environment with her. It is clear she has a crush on you, but is holding back because she jsut dumped your buddy. She is very cute and you would date her if you could, but obviously not right now. You work with her and become friends.
Two years pass, and even though you've moved to different jobs, you remain friends with her. Then you lose touch for a year, but remember her fondly. You get the chance to see her again, 3 years after she dumped your buddy, and take it. She still has a huge crush on you and you still like her. The opportunity to hook up and date is perfect and you both want to. Your buddy, meanwhile, has gotten himself a new girlfriend (of about 5 months), but is still somewhat bitter about this girl.
What do you do? Do you date this girl or not?
Your best buddy is dating a girl and falls in love with her. After about 4 months of them dating, though, she breaks it off with out much explanation. Apparantly, she just wasn't interested in him the way he was in her. He is heartbroken, seroiously hurt.
You are somewhat friendly with this girl through school and mutual friends. When you return to your old job (you've been traveling) you find she works there and you are forced to work in a somewhat social environment with her. It is clear she has a crush on you, but is holding back because she jsut dumped your buddy. She is very cute and you would date her if you could, but obviously not right now. You work with her and become friends.
Two years pass, and even though you've moved to different jobs, you remain friends with her. Then you lose touch for a year, but remember her fondly. You get the chance to see her again, 3 years after she dumped your buddy, and take it. She still has a huge crush on you and you still like her. The opportunity to hook up and date is perfect and you both want to. Your buddy, meanwhile, has gotten himself a new girlfriend (of about 5 months), but is still somewhat bitter about this girl.
What do you do? Do you date this girl or not?