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"Thou shalt not lie" was once set in stone, but now it isn't almost worth the paper it's printed on.
A University of Massachusetts' study, found that 60 percent of people lied at least once during a 10-minute conversation and told an average of two to three lies.
People were recorded during conversation. Afterwards they were asked to identify any, uhmm, inaccuracies they told.
Of course there are different degrees of lying.
1) Telling something that is not.
2) Bragging about something that is not so big.
3) deminishing some large issue
4) not telling something that is, because it deranges your position
5) not telling something that is, out of sheer politeness
"Soft Lies" like #3 - #5 are perhaps quite common in everyday social live. In fact, number 5 is Forum Rule. Please read the FAQ.
Telling the truth everywhere and everywhen might be desatrous to your public life. Maybe you'll have some friends, that hold your honesty in a high regard, but other people might not be so fond of you, if you purge your trail-of-thought into their consciousness.
Now call me rude or mixed-up, as all my close friends know by now that I don't like presents. They are my friends, I love 'em, and have few problems to tell them the truth. But if a stranger gave me a gift I did not like, I probably said nothing but "Well, thanks."
Anyway, the old polyghraph lie detectors seem to be outdated. Another research group was able to detect lies with magnetic resonance imaging.
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2001/11/011112073302.htm
We ourselves are rather bad judges on the truthworthness of our neighbors. On average, we are only able to tell a lie with between 45 and 65 per cent accuracy. About as good as to toss a coin!
http://www.newscientist.com/news/news.jsp?id=ns99992054
Other studies indicate, that the brain needs more time to to come up with a lie than with the truth.
So what is my point?
Outright lying, opportunist trickery and simple politeness. Where does one end, and where does the other start?
The brain seems to process lies in a different way than the telling the truth. Telling lies is using up a lot of resources.
Obviously it's a good idea not to lie. so you don't have to remember all your different stories. Saves a lot of stress.
But tiny little "evasions" seem to be quite common in social contact. Where do you draw the line?
A University of Massachusetts' study, found that 60 percent of people lied at least once during a 10-minute conversation and told an average of two to three lies.
People were recorded during conversation. Afterwards they were asked to identify any, uhmm, inaccuracies they told.
http://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2002-06/uoma-urf061002.phpthe students who participated in the study were surprised at their own results. "When they were watching themselves on videotape, people found themselves lying much more than they thought they had"
The lies the students told varied considerably, according to Feldman. Some were relatively minor, such as agreeing with the person with whom they were speaking that they liked someone when they really did not. Others were more extreme, such as falsely claiming to be the star of a rock band.
Of course there are different degrees of lying.
1) Telling something that is not.
2) Bragging about something that is not so big.
3) deminishing some large issue
4) not telling something that is, because it deranges your position
5) not telling something that is, out of sheer politeness
"Soft Lies" like #3 - #5 are perhaps quite common in everyday social live. In fact, number 5 is Forum Rule. Please read the FAQ.
Telling the truth everywhere and everywhen might be desatrous to your public life. Maybe you'll have some friends, that hold your honesty in a high regard, but other people might not be so fond of you, if you purge your trail-of-thought into their consciousness.
"We teach our children that honesty is the best policy, but we also tell them it's polite to pretend they like a birthday gift they've been given. Kids get a very mixed message regarding the practical aspects of lying, and it has an impact on how they behave as adults."
Now call me rude or mixed-up, as all my close friends know by now that I don't like presents. They are my friends, I love 'em, and have few problems to tell them the truth. But if a stranger gave me a gift I did not like, I probably said nothing but "Well, thanks."
Anyway, the old polyghraph lie detectors seem to be outdated. Another research group was able to detect lies with magnetic resonance imaging.
The group was able to decide from the scans, when the paricipants where lying and when not.In each situation, volunteers chose an envelope, which contained a five-of-clubs playing card and a cash incentive, and were told not to divulge what card they held.
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2001/11/011112073302.htm
We ourselves are rather bad judges on the truthworthness of our neighbors. On average, we are only able to tell a lie with between 45 and 65 per cent accuracy. About as good as to toss a coin!
http://www.newscientist.com/news/news.jsp?id=ns99992054
Other studies indicate, that the brain needs more time to to come up with a lie than with the truth.
So what is my point?
Outright lying, opportunist trickery and simple politeness. Where does one end, and where does the other start?
The brain seems to process lies in a different way than the telling the truth. Telling lies is using up a lot of resources.
Obviously it's a good idea not to lie. so you don't have to remember all your different stories. Saves a lot of stress.
But tiny little "evasions" seem to be quite common in social contact. Where do you draw the line?