I, uh, gave you the most relevant links I think.
Well, I suppose I can be a bit more thorough.
Most important:
https://civ-5-cbp.fandom.com/wiki/Creating_a_Modpack These instructions are correct so at most you might have trouble navigating something. It's quick and easy.
https://forums.civfanatics.com/forums/community-patch-project.497/ There's the VP forum you should be looking in.
https://forums.civfanatics.com/threads/new-version-may-19th-5-19.646024/ The newest version you'd want for your modpack. Make sure you have all the DLC and
aren't subscribed to the workshop version of the community patch/more luxuries.
Alternatively, you can use someone else's modpack (somewhat outdated).
https://forums.civfanatics.com/threads/vp-modpack-magnus-mutatio.639974/ You extract it to Program Files (x86)\Steam\steamapps\common\Sid Meier's Civilization V\Assets\DLC as the default install.
Haven't tried it in a long while but I think it's still unstable. Not sure if it's still the same case but disabling barbs was the most common answer to lowering desyncs. Otherwise less players and ai civs is what I remember led to relatively stable games.