Many thing you list are not bugs, and some are pure opinion.
I have also played ALL of the AoE and civ games, incluing most near knock offs, and this is HANDS DOWN the best I have every played!!!! It also, works suprisingly fast and well on both of my desktops (2 and 4 years old). i have foud only one bug, and that is on an older video card (the food bug)
I found the manual to be quite good, answering most gameplay questions about how things work. There are a few errors, but a the manual is ALWAYS based on a build several months old (neccessary because fo teh time it take to print and bingd that many manuals) they are expected. Did you bother to look in teh readme section? It had most of the hotkey changes listed.
Finally, many compatability issues have been identified, and work arounds were already being posted on teh FIRST DAY that they were reported. However, many of the problems so many are experiencing are driver based problems, as some of your seemed to be. But if you REFUSE to do basic computer maintainence, you should not fault the game company.
My wife is a big fan of the AoE line, and so we got both. AoE3 was a complete waste of money. Have fun palying it.