As dozenlong said, you ask for critics, I gave critics. Nonetheless, I will answer to you:
When Isabella spammed down three crap cities and two cities popped up, they were much faster and easier to get than building settlers.
Unless you practice a special "no-settler" strategy, you should have your first settler much quicker than that. If you wait that opponents have 3 or 4 cities before building your first settlers, you risk to loose evey good spot. And even if you capture cities, you get diplomatic penalty, cities with foreign culture and sometimes not on good places. My personnal experience (and which seems to be the same for most people here) is that my first settler is out approximately at the same time as the computer at prince/monarch, if not a little bit faster, so I never see new computer's cities before my settler is out.
Last Time I checked, neither Madrid, Barcalona or New Oreleans were part of the Greek Empire. Also neither was Illinois or the city north of my capital. My military is weak because I just captured a couple cities from Isabella. I'll get some more 2 turn swords to take Paris soon enough.
Even if you're out from a war, your military is still weak. Very weak. One of the first prince lesson I learnt when I stepped on this level was not to do so. I conquered an other civ, let my military too weak for a time, and before I knew it I was invaded by my neighbour. Since that time, I don't stop "war mode" after a war till I don't have proper defences.
My cap wasn't great, but I couldn't see ~4 or 5 plains that I ended up settling at.
I don't say that your decision of settling here was wrong, but that your decision of running specialists (and not the decision for SE actually, I was wrong in my terms) in such a capital is dubious. I am not a SE professional, but I really feel that having to reach biology to have a good capital is not a good move.
My tech-path seems unfocused.... hmmm lets see Phil, CS, Paper, education and researching Lib. It seems as though I am rushing Lib and taking Nationlism to get early cavs. MY tech path is very narrow.
I am speaking of the first techs you discovered, sorry I did not mention that. I think I remember seeing sailing in second of third position, but perhaps you got it from a hut actually? If so, I may be wrong.
-- just checked the save again: I was indeed wonfused by the fact that you got the wheel and sailing as your first techs, but considering the dates it's clear you got them from huts. So forget about this.
I know I need workers, they have just taken a backseat to recent conquests.
This is still something obvious in your save that you did not state, so I felt it was good to say it
I have taken six cities and settled one, that is agressive to me.
I must say that waiting for cats (which don't get agressive bonus) and bit pointy objects (which don't get agressive bonus either) to go to war does not seem very agressive to me

Also, settlement of new cities has nothing to do with agressivness or not.
But more than that, I find hard to believe that you lost so many swordmen and no cats. With cats in vanilla, I would have built much more of them to go to war, to reduce it to a cakewalk. Also, you declared war three times and plan to go for a fourth time? It's not too much the case here (only bismarck is affected), but the diplo modifier could hurt you really badly.
Finally, it really seems to me that you went to war without specific plans: Why? Where? What to do after? If you had some, feel free to share them.
War is not all about results. This reminds me I should read Sun Tzu one day.
On a sidenote, you can get back your ressource from Monty, andget him to cautious by gifting him CoL.
THat said, my plan from here would be:
- forget about buildings, build military asap to consolidate your army
- workers! workers! lot's of them, at least 3 or 4 more; road your cities and ressources, clear the jungle to get your new cities effective asap
- getting nationalism, and? If you plan to go toward military tradition, it will still take some time and you do not have enough production to get many cavs. So I would forget about it for some time and get back some useful techs (currency and metal casting mostly, do you have horseback riding? I think yes, but I'm not sure)
- I forgot to check for warring opportunities, but perhaps the south cities of spain have good ressources.
Well, I think I'm finished
