A personal problem that arose with the Israeli/Lebanese conflict.

Mr. Dictator

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ok, this is a bit of a personal topic but i will post it here as both a realization i made and maybe to ask for some advice.

It all starts my 6th grade year. It was my first year at a new school and i was terrified. As i walked into the class for the first time i still remember the akward stares as i manuevered to an empty chair in the back of the room. I felt so alone and like an outsider.

Then as i sat down a kid sitting next to me said hi. His name was Nader and he was middle eastern, lebanese to be exact. "Hi", i said, never seeing a muslim before in my life until now. Thus started one of my first real friendships at my new school.

Well we were great friends during 6th grade and 7th grade until the first test (and last fatefully) to our friendship. It was one month into our 8th grade year. It was 9/11.

Sure it shocked everyone at first. We werent in the mood to hate each other due to the grief. But then the anger set in. And with it the mob mentality. And poor Nader was the biggest target in town. Imagine how much a muslim stood out in Middle Tennessee. Well i was still insecure about my social standing so when the crowds moved i followed. Well, i ruined it. Our friendship was over. I made fun of him in the lunch room, in the class, and whenever i was around a group and he walked by. But i will say it was never done when i was alone with him. i wasnt that big of a jerk (though i might've been a contender)

well recently i discovered that him and his family are stranded in Lebanon and i feel like a douche. i never apoligized these past 4 years. i meant to, trust me. its just that every time i was around him it was akward. but now it hits home. those 25,000 stranded americans arent just a statistic anymore. its 24,996 people i hope to return safe but 4 people that, if lost, i would never be able to forgive myself for. i know they will probably make it out fine, its just the thought of the contrary that terrifies me.

so, i sent his sister a message on myspace to ask for his number or aim so after they get back i can meet him again and apoligize.

i know its going to be akward but i think i'll find it cleansing. and im becoming more of a christian and i see this as something he wants.

so i guess i would like you all to know that a friendship is invaluable. dont ever ruin one for such trivial gain as a bit of a social boost.

i wish i wouldve known that 5 years ago :(
 
Mr. Dictator said:
ok, this is a bit of a personal topic but i will post it here as both a realization i made and maybe to ask for some advice.

It all starts my 6th grade year. It was my first year at a new school and i was terrified. As i walked into the class for the first time i still remember the akward stares as i manuevered to an empty chair in the back of the room. I felt so alone and like an outsider.

Then as i sat down a kid sitting next to me said hi. His name was Nader and he was middle eastern, lebanese to be exact. "Hi", i said, never seeing a muslim before in my life until now. Thus started one of my first real friendships at my new school.

Well we were great friends during 6th grade and 7th grade until the first test (and last fatefully) to our friendship. It was one month into our 8th grade year. It was 9/11.

Sure it shocked everyone at first. We werent in the mood to hate each other due to the grief. But then the anger set in. And with it the mob mentality. And poor Nader was the biggest target in town. Imagine how much a muslim stood out in Middle Tennessee. Well i was still insecure about my social standing so when the crowds moved i followed. Well, i ruined it. Our friendship was over. I made fun of him in the lunch room, in the class, and whenever i was around a group and he walked by. But i will say it was never done when i was alone with him. i wasnt that big of a jerk (though i might've been a contender)

well recently i discovered that him and his family are stranded in Lebanon and i feel like a douche. i never apoligized these past 4 years. i meant to, trust me. its just that every time i was around him it was akward. but now it hits home. those 25,000 stranded americans arent just a statistic anymore. its 24,996 people i hope to return safe but 4 people that, if lost, i would never be able to forgive myself for. i know they will probably make it out fine, its just the thought of the contrary that terrifies me.

so, i sent his sister a message on myspace to ask for his number or aim so after they get back i can meet him again and apoligize.

i know its going to be akward but i think i'll find it cleansing. and im becoming more of a christian and i see this as something he wants.

so i guess i would like you all to know that a friendship is invaluable. dont ever ruin one for such trivial gain as a bit of a social boost.

i wish i wouldve known that 5 years ago :(

I'm sorry man, thats really terrible.

Mankind can be captivatingly ugly, especially when the mob mentality sets in.

I hope he gets out fine from all this, and that you can see each other again.

Life is sad, but every now and then some truly wonderful people make it happy.
 
Dawgphood001 said:
I'm sorry man, thats really terrible.

Mankind can be captivatingly ugly, especially when the mob mentality sets in.

I hope he gets out fine from all this, and that you can see each other again.

Life is sad, but every now and then some truly wonderful people make it happy.

thanks man, i know it seems weird to be affected by a post by some stranger online but that helps.

i guess this can be a character defining moment for me. but i cried a bit when i learned they were stranded there. i really felt bad. i called everyone i could for information.

and i just got a message that said they were going to drive 2 hours to damascus tomorrow and leave. so i guess they should be ok.
 
I have 3 friends who are in Lebanon with their families. Two are Muslim and one is Christian, and they all go to high school with me. Everyone here is getting really worried about them, because we haven't heard back from them.

All we can hope for is that either the hostilities cease or the US State Department gets them out of there. Hopefully, they'll all be okay. :)
 
I don't know if this will help but I posted this in another thread. There's considerable discussion going on between people in Lebanon, Israel and the world (really). This is not a political thread since it's about the people.

You might find it helpful to find out more about the situation in Lebanon by posting. Everyone has been very helpful and informative. This thread has taken on a whole new dimension.

http://www.flyertalk.com/forum/showthread.php?t=563147&page=14&pp=40
 
i think i had read some of that.

its getting crazy over there. i have my tv on cnn but its something about catholics right now.

i feel better though.
 
hey, i was just wondering.

do we have any lebanese posters here?
 
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