you guys were right lmao!
i'm glad i read this in time to rename the autosave to keep it and try. this is a noble game on pangaea with more civs than i usually have (trying to learn politics).
sadly, since he was on a forest tile across a river i couldn't attack him at the 'warrior and settler' together stage to get a free worker, but i did go ahead and settle (my first game as churchill, he starts with fishing so the 2 clams (and the fish in eventual BFC) are tastier than i'd realized. DOWd, he did send his warrior off, i walked right into Beijing in 3920 and got myself 4 gold and a rival dead! as gdgrimm pointed out, that's one less civ i have to compete with for space (and deal with diplomatically...before he even had a chance to pick a worst enemy i think!).
futzing with it in WB to take away his forst tile and river for defense, i got lucky on a 50% chance and got the free worker. boy wouldn't that have been sweet.
i'm not going to play it through atm, i'm having too much fun in my current game. but i'm saving this one, and someday i'll play it, and try jimbob 27's idea of letting him (think he's going to) get himself established to at least 2 pop, and ending up with 2 capital-level BFCs. there'll be more overlap than i usually like, but big whoop, well worth the benefits i'd gain, yummmm. actually, the WB less-defense-for-him check showed that he doesn't have any resources in his BFC other than those we can see and a corn 2E of my settler that would be in my own BFC anyway. that's as far as i peeked, just enough to change those tiles for a 'gosh what if' feeling, i love discovering the map and didn't want to spoil that part. i do want the joy of a Beijing as a city on my F1 list that early. i'd not even rename it (i usually rename ever city i ever make/capture).
thanks guys! does it show that i'm not real brave without encouragement? i learn something new every day.
and look look Sisiutil! i solved a 'map problem' even before axemen!

/flex