Also note that the AIs who employ the "Dagger" strategy (Boudica, and a few more I can't think of off the top of my head) will circumvent most, if not all of the usual criteria and just DoW you.
If you have a couple AI friends nearby who hates (or at the very least, dislikes.... diplo rating varies) the angry AIs who are plotting against you, bribe them to DoW on whichever AI is about to DoW on yourself - it will instantly override any of their existing war plans.
Also getting a religious fanatics/zealots (i.e. Isabella/Saladin) to share a religion makes for a good lapdog/meatshield.
I'm not sure if getting the AI to DoW on them once they've already plotted works. Certainly if they haven't begun to plot, this stops them from plotting.
This is very anecdotal, but I recently saw shaka DoW on a guy and his two vassals while already in a (losing!) war against another guy and his two vassals!
EDIT: Unless that's an inane dagger. I don't know but would bet shaka can dagger.