Is the weight purely on numbers, or is there just MORE weight on numbers? Hypothetically, say two civilizations both had iron working and iron, but one has an army of 10 archers and 40 spearmen, and the other has and army of 10 archers and 20 axemen. Would the first civ (assuming that their leader isn't monty) declare war on the second? And say the second civilization had walls in all their cities, or they had a ton of forests that their soldiers could hunker down in. Would that affect the first's decision of whether to declare war?
This is all assuming that the two civs are "annoyed" with each other.