Lets say that X (X=A Good friend or family member of you) loves Y (Y= A form of government that opposes the current government, You , love your country no matter what
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Well, to start, that's a highly over-specific yet simplistic premise- almost to the point of being invalid as serious examples- and the three limited eventualities you suggest just make that worse.
As for the individual eventualities, it seems that you're somewhat paradoxically attempting to simultaneously propagate nationalism and self-interest, two essentially incompatible ways of thinking. What's more, self-interest is fundamentally incompatible with an ideology such as socialism, which you claim to adhere to in some form or another.
But, even stripping away this confusion, the situation you present doesn't actually present a sound moral or ideological basis for the rejection of interpersonal bonds. You have not said why it is better to preserve your over your loved ones, thus rendering your examples incomplete and so irrelevant.
What's more, you assume that interpersonal bonds only extend to family and love ones, while in fact people form interpersonal bonds simply though contact. Co-workers, neighbours, someone working a cafe that you happen to buy a coffee from, whatever- interpersonal bonds exist. To reject these in favour of self-interest or "strength" is to embrace a dangerously sociopathic mindset.
You , love your country no matter what
I felt that this part needed to be highlighted- loving your country is not the same thing as loving your country's government. Indeed, the two are often at odds- a true patriot is always watching his government to make sure they do right by the country, that they do not become corrupt or incompetent. It's been said that there's no greater patriot than the revolutionary, and I believe this to be true.